child going on vocation for 2 months

[iceberg]

This year my ex went to Europe for 1 months and wanted to take our child with her. I was against it because she would have to travel days to visit all her destination and most of the she spent traveling by bus or taxi or relatives car. I still agreed on the end but she decided not to take our kid because of the costs. When she came back she said she was glad she didn't take the child because the trip didn't go to well.

Well next year she wants to go again but for 2 months. This time she will fly straight to her home country and will rent a car for their needs. In this case i will even help with child's ticket and medical insurance.

But would like your opinion is 2 for the child too long? The child will be almost 6 by then.

[HammerDad]

I feel 2 months is unreasonably long for a child to be away from a caregiver (be the caregiver primary or not).

I would agree to two, two week intervals to start. Maybe even 1 month, so long as you were provided with compensatory time in return. Travelling is good for children, and seeing their native lands is also important. But 2 months seems unreasonable for a 6 year old to be away, especially if you are not being provided with any time in return.

[iceberg]

Originally Posted by HammerDad

I feel 2 months is unreasonably long for a child to be away from a caregiver (be the caregiver primary or not).

I feel so too but I was told by people that even court would allow this.

Originally Posted by HammerDad

I would agree to two, two week intervals to start. Maybe even 1 month, so long as you were provided with compensatory time in return.

I am not sure what you mean by this. My plan is when they come back to keep the child for 2 weeks at a time and she keeps her 1 week and so on until I make up for those 2 months.

But don't I have to make up for 1 month only because 1 month is her time

[HammerDad]

Originally Posted by iceberg

I feel so too but I was told by people that even court would allow this.

A court MAY allow it. You argue will have to be strong and provide proof in the form of teachers/counsellors/experts that you don't believe the child is at an where 2 months is appropriate. She will have to argue that it provides significant benefit to the child and will have to show how she will facilitate communication between the two of you during the trip.

I am not sure what you mean by this. My plan is when they come back to keep the child for 2 weeks at a time and she keeps her 1 week and so on until I make up for those 2 months.

But don't I have to make up for 1 month only because 1 month is her time

So she is entitled to 1 month already? I was suggesting offering 2 periods of 2 weeks, but if she is entitled to that already, that isn't much of an offer.

It is tough, travel is looked upon as a growing and learning experience. But the flip side is, how long is reasonable. At 6, two months seems like an really long time.

[iceberg]

Originally Posted by HammerDad

A court MAY allow it. You argue will have to be strong and provide proof in the form of teachers/counsellors/experts that you don't believe the child is at an where 2 months is appropriate. She will have to argue that it provides significant benefit to the child and will have to show how she will facilitate communication between the two of you during the trip.



So she is entitled to 1 month already? I was suggesting offering 2 periods of 2 weeks, but if she is entitled to that already, that isn't much of an offer.

It is tough, travel is looked upon as a growing and learning experience. But the flip side is, how long is reasonable. At 6, two months seems like an really long time.

No she is not entitled to anything yet, when you said after she comes back to keep the child for 1 months I got a little confused and was under impression that she has to make up time for 2 months.

Yes she will make up time. I don't know should it be 1 month straight or 2 weeks/1 week thing.

Anyone else thinks 2 months is too long for a 6 year old (Will turn 6 over there actually so 5 year old)?