Best interest of children??? Is this a joke???

[Storm]

Here is couple of situations. (not mine) Please feel free to kick my ass if I am wrong here.

1.Mom - single with 2 boys , age 4 and 6, carrying alone for them
Dad - out of picture and comes every 3 month for one day to visit his kids.
Kids - very happy to see father, every day asking for father and very upset when he leaves. They cry hard all night and say daddy does not love us , were we so bad, why he gone)
One day youngest got sick, very sick, mom did call father. Here conversation

M - Hi, our youngest son is very sick, he is asking about you, could you come?
F- I do give a Shit about it. F word. Deal with it alone, I do not care, and did not show up even for this 3 month apart visit.


2. 5 years old daughter suddenly became upset before visit. On question what wrong with you , she answers that she is afraid. On question why, she said that other side is hitting her and shows how. Other side denies everything and nothing can be proven. Child is more afraid each time, upset to either side, thinking that noone can protect her.(which is true and very sad)


3. Father has regular visits EOW and Wednesday, he constantly misses his visits without any exponentiation, his kids very upset with it. Mom tries to talk to Father, and again F word and noone can make me. On other hand when, mom needs to switch with reasonable * excuse*, answer is you will loose custody for it...

So how all this is in best interest of child? I just can't get it!!!. Sorry, but I think upsetting child is not so *best* for him/her

[wretchedotis]

Or then you have the flip side where mom moves out of town to prevent shared custody. Mom also denies access to Dad for no particular reason.
Dad has not been able to see child for 2 christmas' in a row.
Mom has no problem charging Dad with Uttering threats, and calling police to accuse Dad of sexually molesting the child - all of which are simply fabrications made up by Mom.

Clearly not in the best interest of the child, is it?

People are screwed up all over this world. It's not just Dad who can be an ass - as your post would seem to indicate.

[Storm]

Originally Posted by wretchedotis

Or then you have the flip side where mom moves out of town to prevent shared custody. Mom also denies access to Dad for no particular reason.
Dad has not been able to see child for 2 christmas' in a row.
Mom has no problem charging Dad with Uttering threats, and calling police to accuse Dad of sexually molesting the child - all of which are simply fabrications made up by Mom.

Clearly not in the best interest of the child, is it?

People are screwed up all over this world. It's not just Dad who can be an ass - as your post would seem to indicate.

I agree with you, sure... I just put examples, but in real time more dads than moms make child suffer. I am not against all dads, but just those dads in example.

[standing on the sidelines]

do you have actually facts and figures to back up your claims that it is mostly dads that make the children suffer???

[Storm]

Originally Posted by standing on the sidelines

do you have actually facts and figures to back up your claims that it is mostly dads that make the children suffer???

I do ... but I think this forum against women and confirms this. Look at this forum more carefully.

[BeenThereTwice]

Standing on the Sidelines.. my guess is that the "stupid irresponsible idiot" gene occurs with about the same frequency in both men and women, so I'm guessing (with NO help from Statistics Canada) that both men and woman are guilty to a similar extent. With that said.. doesn't really matter which gender is "more" irresponsible does it.

Most of us learned long ago that we can't control what others do. We can only take responsibility for ourselves. And I take my hat off (if I had one) to ALL the responsible folks.. no matter their gender.

[Storm]

Originally Posted by BeenThereTwice

Standing on the Sidelines.. my guess is that the "stupid irresponsible idiot" gene occurs with about the same frequency in both men and women, so I'm guessing (with NO help from Statistics Canada) that both men and woman are guilty to a similar extent. With that said.. doesn't really matter which gender is "more" irresponsible does it.

Most of us learned long ago that we can't control what others do. We can only take responsibility for ourselves. And I take my hat off (if I had one) to ALL the responsible folks.. no matter their gender.

100% with you ...

[billm]

Originally Posted by Storm

I do ... but I think this forum against women and confirms this. Look at this forum more carefully.

'This forum' (aka public opinion) is only 'against' (ie does not agree with), people of any gender who make negative gender based accusations.

I am against you, for example

[WorkingDAD]

Originally Posted by Storm

I do ... but I think this forum against women and confirms this. Look at this forum more carefully.

you sure do... this forum against stupid, arrogant, selfish, vindictive @@$R%^& who put their own interest over the kids and use them for their own personal agenda and it has nothing to do with gender ...

[Storm]

Originally Posted by WorkingDAD

you sure do... this forum against stupid, arrogant, selfish, vindictive @@$R%^& who put their own interest over the kids and use them for their own personal agenda and it has nothing to do with gender ...

I thought you asked me not to comment on my post, why you do comment mine, please stay out too