Access

[HammerDad]

I have a feeling she left as she didn't hear what she wanted that she could deny access on the basis that:

1. it wasn't her ex doing the pickup (even though there is no provision restricting OP's ex from using their reasonable discretion to determine who pick up the child in their place); and

2. that, yeah Grampa may be a drunk, but unless he WAS drunk, the OP didn't have reasonable ground to believe there was a reasonable chance the child was in imminent danger by being in Grampa's care.

In other words, she screwed up. Got told. And she doesn't like it.

[Gary M]

Originally Posted by HammerDad

In other words, she screwed up. Got told. And she doesn't like it.

An all-too-common occurrence here, but whatcha gonna do?

Cheers!

Gary

[winterwolf7]

I remember at the start of my separation, I couldn't bear reading this forum. It was so depressing and upsetting. I couldn't believe how heavy handed people seemed or how life shatteringly negative things were all that were discussed.

Now I feel right at home, like I'm part of a big screwed up family.

Obviously I support everyone's responses. She's a whack job.

[fireweb13]

Yep, she's a whackjob. Good for all of you for getting to her before us. My dad was a drunk, and I would absolutly make sure that he was never around our daughter drunk. He was allowed when sober though, and since he is gone I am very happy that she got to spend some time with him.

[Tayken]

Originally Posted by LostFather

I agree with the other posters. You were wrong. Moreover you're in contempt. If i were you, I would not only apologize for your error, I would offer him make up time for the the time you unilaterally denied access. Asap!

This is a very important point and excellent recommendation.

Judges do not think access denials are funny at all. Now, if this is the first time you will get a slap on the hand and the order will be updated probably to reflect details about identifying delegates to each parent prior to their attending and picking up your children.

Anxiety is a very common problem after divorce. Your post sounds like you are more anxious than truly worried.

Good Luck!
Tayken

[Berner_Faith]

Originally Posted by winterwolf7

I remember at the start of my separation, I couldn't bear reading this forum. It was so depressing and upsetting. I couldn't believe how heavy handed people seemed or how life shatteringly negative things were all that were discussed.

Now I feel right at home, like I'm part of a big screwed up family.

Obviously I support everyone's responses. She's a whack job.

I can see why some would find this forum to be negitive in some ways...I must say before I joined I read a few of the posts and was uncertain about asking questions... but I now find myself here at least once a day reading what is going on... never know when his STBX will pull something like others are and its nice to have the advice here...just wish everyone was able to take it