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Old 11-10-2014, 07:31 PM
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When it comes to protecting the kid, there's no hesitation ...... If OP is that concerned over the child's welfare why wait all this time?
And this is what the judge will tell her.
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Parenting classes.
short but frequent access.
Supervised access.
Home assessment by 3rd party.
MEANINGFUL relationship between dad and baby.
Mom cooperates fully and stops micromanaging.
Mom is not gate keeper.
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Old 11-10-2014, 07:35 PM
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Let's pretend for a second that he really is a terrible person and there is a legitimate concern.

What are the OPs options if she truly did fail to report any of this previously, and it was simply an oversight on her part?

Let's just humour this one.
When it comes to your child's safety there shouldn't be oversight's. IMO.

If it was of such little significance that it was overseen and no authorities called this man doesn't need supervision. IMO
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The OP asked for "what are her options". Note: word "options".

I don't get impression she really wants options.
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Options = strategy
strategy = full custody
full custody = $$$ and control
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When someone tells you that a baby is being mistreated, you investigate, you dont shrug it off because of any past behavior of either parent. These are serious questionable behavior towards an innocent child, that as an adult you should never shrug turn a blind eye towards.
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When someone tells you that a baby is being mistreated, you investigate, you dont shrug it off because of any past behavior of either parent. These are serious questionable behavior towards an innocent child, that as an adult you should never shrug turn a blind eye towards.
CAS investigates. Why didn't you call them when it happened? Again .. hope you have your proof that he abuses children. I doubt you do. Yes, there is serious questionable behavior going on here. I agree.
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When someone tells you that a baby is being mistreated, you investigate, you dont shrug it off because of any past behavior of either parent. These are serious questionable behavior towards an innocent child, that as an adult you should never shrug turn a blind eye towards.
Actually how it works is that when you see someone abusing YOUR child, YOU call CAS. Its your responsibility and duty to do so. No one here shrugged it off...you did...well, at least until it became beneficial for you to make the allegation.

Regardless, my advice to you at this point would be to seek OCL involvement in your case if your ex has filed for access.
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Old 11-10-2014, 08:07 PM
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Here's what's likely to happen:

Judge: Ms Confused why are you denying access of child to Mr. Confused?
you: because he was abusive towards the baby.
Judge: did you call the police?
you: no
Judge: did you alert CAS?
you: no
Judge: what proof do you have of these allegations?
you: because I say so
Judge: ?????

In other words if this goes to court, it will probably go 50/50 and I doubt that your ex will require supervision simply because you lack proof that it is required.
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In other words if this goes to court, it will probably go 50/50 and I doubt that your ex will require supervision simply because you lack proof that it is required.
Or OCL will be requested to get involved.
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