uncontested sole custody, no marriage

[boyc1011]

Hi,

My bf and I were never married or common-law partners. He lives abroad and has never visited to see the baby since she was born about a year ago. I would like to ask for the sole custody of the child and he will not contest. Do I still need to hire a lawyer or can I do it by myself. I live in Quebec.

Thank you in advance for any advices.

[dinkyface]

Have you discussed Child Support ($$) with your bf?

[boyc1011]

I will not ask for child support.

[boyc1011]

I guess I should have said "my ex-bf".

[Alli]

To get an order for custody your ex-BF will need to agree to an order for child support. The courts will not let you waive your child's rights. You don't need a lawyer but the process is difficult so I wouldn't recommend it.

[boyc1011]

Thank you so much for a quick reply. I will get a lawyer in that case.

[logicalvelocity]

Out of curiosity, why do you need an order for custody, considering you seem to appear to be defacto on acquired consent. I realize the Quebec civil system is different, but how is it different.

[boyc1011]

It seems like I might get into trouble when traveling abroad alone with her if I don't have the sole custody. They say I will have to carry a document saying that I have the sole custody, otherwise I might have to ask my ex's permission every time I travel abroad. Is this true? I think it also depends on the country I travel to, but I shouldn't take chance because I don't know which country will be a problem.

[dinkyface]

Is your ex named as father on her birth certificate? If not, it makes your life a whole lot easier.

[boyc1011]

I know, but he is declared as the father.