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Old 11-16-2016, 09:26 PM
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For the ex-husband, you let them understand that you are going to exploit them for as long as possible for spousal support,sleep around as much as possible while you do it (you take his money, while servicing other people), while sticking the kids in daycare.

Family court, it's a beautiful place.
Don't forget the S7 expenses that are associated with daycare.
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Old 11-16-2016, 10:55 PM
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I think family court is a great place to destroy your ex-spouse.

You just need to find the pain points and go for them but you should never openly admit your goals - it is counterproductive.

For SAHM, you need to indirectly paint them as lazy, useless, good for nothing, drains on you and society, then you need to ensure that you get shared custody do their identity/justification as a "homemaker" is eviscerated and they look even more lazy and useless.

For the ex-husband, you let them understand that you are going to exploit them for as long as possible for spousal support,sleep around as much as possible while you do it (you take his money, while servicing other people), while sticking the kids in daycare.

Family court, it's a beautiful place.
Out of curiosity, does this apply to SAHD's as well?
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Out of curiosity, does this apply to SAHD's as well?
You tell me. Find me a case where...

1) Father is not disabled
2) Father gets spousal support
3) Father doesn't get income imputed because he has been out of the workforce
4) Father gets table child support

Extra bonus points if mother has between 30%-40% access.

While you search, I'll work a couple of extra decades at my job and then retire to take care of my grandchildren.
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Old 11-16-2016, 11:47 PM
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You tell me. Find me a case where...

1) Father is not disabled
2) Father gets spousal support
3) Father doesn't get income imputed because he has been out of the workforce
4) Father gets table child support

Extra bonus points if mother has between 30%-40% access.

While you search, I'll work a couple of extra decades at my job and then retire to take care of my grandchildren.
Simple answer - women who make more money then men are probably intellectually more intelligent and smart enough to settle things out of court.
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Simple answer - women who make more money then men are probably intellectually more intelligent and smart enough to settle things out of court.
Once again Arabian you hit the nail on the head
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Simple answer - women who make more money then men are probably intellectually more intelligent and smart enough to settle things out of court.
So apparently it is acceptable to write sexis... oops, it is against men. That's cool. Carry on.
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Old 11-17-2016, 09:59 AM
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Simple answer - women who make more money then men are probably intellectually more intelligent and smart enough to settle things out of court.


My partners ex would NOT fall in this category.

Some educated/higher earning women (and men) have the superiority complex which leads to high conflict because they feel right all the time. Having money or brains doesn't always make you smart.

I think its empathy and a self awareness that allows people to settle. Understanding whats best for the kids and not wanting to waste hundreds or thousands help too.
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We should probably ask how these senses of superiority develop.

Famous theorist Alfred Adler said the sense of inferiority is a problem in self-development…...you are threatened by the achievements and possible accomplishments of others, so you try desperately to position yourself above it somehow…with things like sexism, this is more apparent.

For example, he would say not hiring a woman would cause you no threat that she might outshine you. He would say we often do the same types of actions with those of different racial backgrounds as well when we struggle with our sense of self.

According to Adler (and I am inclined to agree), those who are secure in who they are, are not threatened by the achievements of others.

So one might postulate that an individual didn't successfully transition through Eriksson's stages of psychosocial development Erik Erikson | Psychosocial Stages | Simply Psychology would be more susceptible to a superiority complex for a number of reasons.

An unhealthy combination of genetics and life/learning experiences leads to a low self-esteem, self concept, self efficacy (all the self's) which in turn causes some to be threatened by the achievements of others and ultimately a heightened sense of self as a coping mechanism.

These individuals make court "very" complex.

Enough psychology for today.
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Old 11-17-2016, 01:51 PM
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My post was supposed to be humorous...
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