Telephone Access

[Mouse_117]

I agreed to a relocation of my daughter a few months back. In agreeing to this relocation, my time was drastically cut with my daughter and I asked that "Unlimited Telephone Access" be allowed and put into the court order. This was done.

Since the move, my ex has done everything she can to keep me out of our daughter's life. She has called the police numerous times on false accusations, won't allow me any information about our daughter that I request, and there is zero communication.

During the summer our daughter spends one week with me, one week with her Mom. Seeing that she was six days on and six days off with each of us and it was 50/50 for the summer months, I suggest we do once a week phone calls as it was the summer and I knew they were on holidays trying to do things as were we and I was seeing our daugher frequently at that time. My ex didn't respond but started only calling once while our daughter was with me, so I thought she was okay with this.

Then, summer ended, my ex was only allowing once a week phone calls still even though I was now only seeing our daughter two days on eleven days off. I have continued to try to call her more than once a week.. usually twice a week at least, but get no where in doing it.

This past week, due to me doing some cookies with our daughter for her bake sale at school and sending them down for her Mom to send to school with her, my "punishment" is that apparently I am not going to get to talk to our daughter at all this week.

Basically I guess I am going to have to go back to court because I am not going to go without talking to my daughter... Anyone else been in this type of situation where they had to go back to court?

[Boomstrike]

Not to sound harsh, but your first mistake was to agree to the relocation of your daughter. I strongly suggest you don't agree to anymore re-locations.

How old is your daughter? Is she to young for a personal cell phone for her and Daddy?

Document everything and get yourself a voice recorder if you don't already have one. Let her make the mistakes and document!

Good luck.

[Mouse_117]

She is only six. So a cell phone is not an option at this point.

As for agreeing to the relocation.. I did fight it at first. I wouldn't consent to it and she took me to court. When we got there.. during the case conference.. the Judge that saw the case "strongly recommended" that I agree to the move as it was only an hour away and my time would not be effected as my ex made the Judge believe all her lies that she would do whatever she could to make sure me and my daughter didn't suffer relationship wise and that she would do what she could to make sure access was extra when possible and our "relationship flourished". So.. I was told by a Judge I should just agree.. I fought it to the Motion, but by the time we got to the Motion date my lawyer agreed that if I didn't agree to the move I risked losing any extra time with my daughter and multiple other things.
So.. being told by a Judge and my Lawyer to agree to it.. what else was I to do? Also.. I don't have thousands of dollars to fight the court system.

Trust me.. it was the hardest decision of my life and it was a lose lose either way.

[standing on the sidelines]

that is the worst part in any type of court case. The other side will make themselves sound so good and you are the one being unreasonable. All the while they know that they are not going to live up to their end.