Quick question

[andagain]

Hi all; I just have a quick question.. I believe my X is intentionally unemployed. She mentioned to my son quite some time ago that she was “going to take some time off”. She recently sold her parent’s house (only one is alive and living in a retirement residence). The $$ received from the sale was significant. She’s an only child. I have a hard time believing with her experience, she couldn’t land a temp or contract job at least, especially considering she has friends in the recruiting industry.
So, to my question – Can I request copies of her bank statements? I’m sure she is getting UI, but my suspicion is that she’s getting money or has gotten money from her parent after the sale of the house which is allowing her to remain unemployed. How can I find this out?? It really bugs me that she doesn’t seem to be struggling financially while being unemployed, but I, having full custody of my son am having trouble making ends meet since she hasn’t paid in a few months..
Any knowledge/experience you can pass along would be greatly appreciated..

[staysingle]

Tell her to fill out a form 13. Then remind her it is her legal obligation to support her child(ren) to the best of her ability. Failing that, file an application with the courts. Don't let too much time slip bye on this, aggressively go after her or forget about it altogether. To me those are your two choices.

It is not often you her about the father in a position to go after a deadbeat mother. Go after her for...... the team! Also, get your separation agreement filed with FRO

[andagain]

Oh she's a deadbeat alright. Even though when we had joint custody (before she drove my boy out of her house with her bitterness), she never let me go even a day without paying

I'm in the process of trying to get things together to file with the FRO so I don't have to pay for a lawyer all the time... I just wasn't sure if we could get her to cough up what she really has in the bank. If its enough, she may not work for a very long time, for the simple reason that she thinks if she doesn't she won't have to pay me...

[staysingle]

What was she paying in CS ( or what was her annual income last year)before she stopped?

[andagain]

She was only making 45K ish and was paying 380. The funny thing is, I didn't ask her for any support for the first year my Son lived with me as I didn't want to be an ass... But, as he got older and things were starting to cost more (activities, allowance, FOOD, sporting equipment, clothing), I asked her to chip in a bit - all I asked her for was $150 per month. She refused so again, I had to go to my lawyer and pay through the nose... and to recoup what I had to spend, I went for guideline amount. She was really peeved.. She only paid for a few months before she conveniently became unemployed... AND.. she didn't even tell me she was unemployed until I called her a few days after the payment was due.. I tried to negotiate with her to at least get something for the last month she worked, and again, she said she wasn't going to discuss it, that she wanted to "keep it through the lawyers".. so... back to the lawyer I go... and more $$ in his pocket..

[red6419]

take comfort in the fact that at least the legal fees are tax deductible in the pursuit of child support.

Good luck.

[wretchedotis]

Being unemployed does not release one form Child Support obligations.
Register with FRO. You won't have to deal with her about it. They will.

[staysingle]

andagain,

You do not need to retain a lawyer for this matter! If you like I can help you with procedure and forms. I too have dealt with my ex on a similar issues. I have two children that live with me and she contributes$0.00!

[andagain]

You know what pi$$es me off.. and I'm sure you've all heard this before... I got so much crap when negotiating our first agreement (when I had him 50% of the time she said she wanted Guideline support - obviously this was before any lawyers got involved).. She kept saying "you are his father, you have an obligation to support him". No offence to the women here, but why do soooo many women think that its only the men that should have to pay.. As I mentioned above.. I paid her when I had him half the time and she wouldn't let me off when I was unemployed for a short stint.. Yet, she thinks all the rules are different for her... Fricken brutal I tell ya.. Ok, sorry for the rant..

[andagain]

and to add, it was her own fault the boy left and came to live with me. I even tried to help her when he first wanted to by arranging a meeting for us to discuss with him what was bothering him about living with her (her bashing of me and my new spouse was the whole reason).. Obviously, she didn't stop and when he asked me to stay with me for the 3rd and final time, she got mad that I wasn't "helping" her enough... She said he "needs his mother'.. this coming from the same woman who wanted to give me two "non-overnighters" a week and that was it..