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Old 10-09-2015, 02:31 PM
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Should I play their "game"? The other side's lawyer is slime and throws wild lies all the time in to their written submissions and in front of the judge. So, I am seriously contemplating sinking to their level to "level" the playing field. Actually, I we recently set up a 4 way meeting (it will occur in 2 weeks) to show them some of the many "cards" - actually my ex has an important government position, and I have lots of dirt/secrets that he told me that would totally ruin his career, and probably get him arrested (which would solve many problems). I plan to threaten to tell them that I would go to the press, and/or inform their superiors of the TOP SECRET information that they frequently leaked/divulged to me. I hate to do this, but it seems the only way to get them to stop trying to imply that I am a bad person and stop them from wasting money by constantly dragging things out and creating motions.. So, my question to all of you knowledgeable people is, "Should I go ahead and make the threat?"
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No.

What you are proposing is insane and would make you look even crazier than your ex.
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So this is going to get you the money that you feel you are entitled to?

Have you asked your lawyer this question?

ex·tor·tion
ikˈstôrSH(ə)n/
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the practice of obtaining something, especially money, through force or threats.
synonyms: blackmail, shakedown; formalexaction
"arrested on a charge of extortion"
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No.

What you are proposing is insane and would make you look even crazier than your ex.
This, exactly this. I was typing a long post in response and lost it. But Stripes said everything that needed to be said.
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It's not about the money. It's the custody of the kids that is the most important thing here. My ex is positively crazy - and yes, he was arrested and charged with making threats - which he confessed to. My ex is bi-polar and has MANY severe OCD issues. The kids are too young to endure his wrath. For me, I just want all of their lies to stop, and if making this "threat" (just a threat) in a 4 way meeting (where we all sign something that says none of this can be used/referred to later - like what you do for mediation) - then at this point, I think it is my only option.
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Oh. Well in that case.....











....it's still wrong, insane and bordering on (if not entirely??) illegal.
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So this is going to get you the money that you feel you are entitled to?

Have you asked your lawyer this question?

ex·tor·tion
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the practice of obtaining something, especially money, through force or threats.
synonyms: blackmail, shakedown; formalexaction
"arrested on a charge of extortion"
Be it money or custody of the kids, extortion is extortion. Any agreement made under such means is invalid and would be tossed by the courts if/when challenged.

Further, your own lawyer may drop you because they won't want to be a party to such methods.
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If my ex gets custody of these young kids, their lives will be ruined. If that is the case, I would be making my way to a country with no extradition order with Canada. (Guess I might want to be learning Croation now?)
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If my ex gets custody of these young kids, their lives will be ruined. If that is the case, I would be making my way to a country with no extradition order with Canada. (Guess I might want to be learning Croation now?)
I hope your ex reads this message board.
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OK then, an anonymous tip to CSIS or CSE and let them deal/arrest him then.....problem solved.
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