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Old 03-18-2014, 03:50 PM
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My posting was to gain perspective out of the OCL disclosure BEFORE we drop 20k+ on a specialist and trial.

Its a big financial commitment and one never knows what other people's experiences and knowledge can bring to the table.

Our lawyer is great. In fact I used him for my divorce years ago but lawyers are still making money off us and every other divorcing family.

Again, my questions and the issue at hand is NOT about how much child support we are paying.

The issue was the OCL telling us to get a specialist. We try to get one and they said.... Why is OCL passing the buck and bringing in a specialist for a reassessment when they just spent 8 months doing one??


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It's simple, Krisann.
The OCL did not conduct an assessment. They did not assess your family.
They ascertained the views and preferences of the children, and over the course of 8 months concluded that the views of the children were not their own. That is the limit to their mandate. You may not like it, that it took 8 months, you may not agree with it.
Even the specialist may not agree with it. But this is what has happened.
As such they can't comment on the best interests of the children. They can't make recommendations as to what they should do. And because the children now have a lawyer involved. Anything the clinical assist found out was done while the lawyer was present, as such the children and the children's lawyer have a privilege that bars anything being discussed and or disclosed.

You lawyer may have done well for your case, that doesn't mean this is a good lawyer. Every case is different, every case requires differing skills. And representing a mother is different than representing a father.

Fundamentally I am a layman, and I have determined whats happened, and whats possible.
I find it concerning that your BF's lawyer doesn't know or hasn't pointed this out to you.
I also find it strange that your BF is using the same lawyer you used. Has he changed lawyers or was it coincidence that he picked your lawyer before he met you, or did you tell him he has to fight this and to use your lawyer?

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My posting was to gain perspective out of the OCL disclosure BEFORE we drop 20k+ on a specialist and trial.
And you were advised to talk to your solicitor of record to receive this advice from a qualified legal professional. No doubt, with a income of 300,000+ per year, not only does your boyfriend have a lawyer but, I would hope it is someone similar to the qualifications of say a Phil Epstein...

What is more concerning is that someone with an income of 300,000 and the other parent having a gross income of 150,000 were not ordered to do a Section 30 assessment right off the bat.

You were also advised to have your boyfriend ask the questions directly as well.

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Its a big financial commitment and one never knows what other people's experiences and knowledge can bring to the table.
More than the ramblings of unrepresented lawyers you are afforded something that most posters to this forum are not... The opportunity to retain COMPETENT AND OVERLY QUALIFIED FAMILY LAW LAWYER so my appologies if I am being frank with you.

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Our lawyer is great. In fact I used him for my divorce years ago but lawyers are still making money off us and every other divorcing family.
They are making money because it is their job. It is also your job as parents to educate yourself as well. Use your lawyer to educate yourself and leverage the lawyer's experience. I suspect this lawyer educates their clients for no less than 500 per hour based on the disclosures you provided regarding income of your boyfriend.

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Again, my questions and the issue at hand is NOT about how much child support we are paying.
1. You won't listen to ration and reason. InformedDad75 has provided you ample information regarding your matter and you keep stating the opposite and confusing matters.

2. Your boyfriend has a lawyer... Apparently a good one. Call the lawyer and seek proper legal advice. No one here can advise you of anything. We just bash rocks into keyboards.

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The issue was the OCL telling us to get a specialist. We try to get one and they said.... Why is OCL passing the buck and bringing in a specialist for a reassessment when they just spent 8 months doing one??
To clarify... No specialist would ever talk to you or your boyfriend that is properly qualified. So firstly, I don't believe you were told anything. Maybe they said this to your lawyer but, any qualified Section 30 assessor says nothing other than provide a consent to act letter and waits for a court order and a retainer check.

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I also find it strange that your BF is using the same lawyer you used. Has he changed lawyers or was it coincidence that he picked your lawyer before he met you, or did you tell him he has to fight this and to use your lawyer?
Interesting observation. I have a similar view point. But, I am "bashing" the OP. What I don't think the OP realizes is that her story is all over the map and chalk full of various kinds of fallacies.
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@ontariodaddyman I agree with you. Many members have been extremely helpful... Thank you members!

Like the difference between sections 30, 112 and 89 which explains why we got no report when we were expecting one.


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@ontariodaddyman I agree with you. Many members have been extremely helpful... Thank you members!

Like the difference between sections 30, 112 and 89 which explains why we got no report when we were expecting one.


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Krisann, Unfortunately you are not happy with the response you are getting. But you have to understand that the information you are providing is off and is confusing. The only way any members (junior or senior) can provide you with their best advice is with more accurate information. There is a reason members are asking so many questions. They are all relevant to your question and are needed to help them give you a proper answer or advice. Perhaps you are confused because you are not asking the right questions?

Take a deep breath.
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Thanks to the members for your help in answering my questions. I will not be continuing with this thread.
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