Need Urgent advice

[Mr. ReadyNow]

We are in the final stages of the settlement minutes and my ex had agreed to withdraw from the FRO but the email I got from her lawyer today said that
"As for the issue of FRO, we will not withdraw. Usually, in case of a US
resident, we would ask for security for future child support such as proceeds
from the sale of a home. Since we will not be seeking security in this case if
we can come to an agreement this week, the enforcement clause should remain.".

Is that good or bad??? Can something bad happen out of this??

[seekinganswers]

here is how I see FRO (and we are the payors):
They do what they are supposed to do. But they do it very slowly, and clumsily.

If they (your ex) want it to go through FRO, it will - you both have to agree for it not to.

FRO isn't bad for you, as the payor, it's worse for her, it will take her probably about 2 months to see any money from FRO, and during the time, you are not allowed to pay her directly.

I am not sure about this 'securities' thing - seems to me they are just asking for some kind of assurance that you won't skip out on your obligations ... but ... there is nothing to stop you from quitting your job, and FRO not having anywhere to garnish wages from ... seems pointless to me.

Offer again to make payments directly to your ex ... maybe even offer a direct banking transfer from your account to hers, so that they don't think you are going to play games like withholding cheques, etc.

No offense to the ethical lawyers (life Jeffrey), but lawyers like your exes are the reason family law is such a mess.
Be fair, play nice, treat people with respect and dignity - does going to law school negate all the things we learned in kindergarten??? sheesh.

[Mr. ReadyNow]

Man....you are sooooo right....I have never missed any payments. She is so sly I just thought that maybe I was getting into something I did not want to be in. Thanks for your quick response....

[logicalvelocity]

Mr. ReadyNow,

I second what "seekinganswers" has mentioned

lv