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Old 05-02-2007, 03:45 PM
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$346 plus your share as well.. let's not forget your share...
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And there you have it - why is it a gray area? Because no two situations are the same.

If my child is invited to a party in my community on the exes time and he accepts to take them to the same, then I would provide the gift.

If my child is invited to a party by someone in the exes community on my time, I would provide the gift.

If my child is invited to a party by someone in the exes community on his time, I would NOT provide the gift.

I also get significantly more CS than Littleman for my two children, so I think an argument can be made that a $30 gift is a reasonable expense for me to incur.

I see my approach as logical and yet I imagine others would disagree with me.
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In my situation, there is no real rule. I am usually caught between a rock and hard place. If I don't pay for it, they don't go, regardless of which day. This extends to just about everything, including parties, lessons, etc., etc.*

The kicker is when it is not my day, and I DO pay for it, and the ex doesn't take them.

Don't worry, I'm saving up a special fund for years of analysis and councelling for my child.

* except for the child's main birthday party (with friends, etc). She does pay for that. I am not allowed to attend (not sure where it is). Her boyfriend can. Her friends and family can. And the child's friends can. But not me. So that one I do not directly pay for (although it comes out of my CS... so in a way I do pay for it). Oh the fun.
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In these cases it is my understanding that it is NOT the child of the marriage’s birthday, but rather a party the child of the marriage has been invited to and out of common courtesy is bringing a gift.

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If my child is invited to a party in my community on the exes time and he accepts to take them to the same, then I would provide the gift.

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If my child is invited to a party by someone in the exes community on my time, I would provide the gift.
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If my child is invited to a party by someone in the exes community on his time, I would NOT provide the gift.
IN any instance, regardless of who's community it is, I would think (my view) that whom ever is scheduled to have the child and if that parent agrees to take the child, then they should provide the gift. If the other parent is driving as a favour to the other and it is not during their regular visitation time, then they are not responsible for the gift.
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IN any instance, regardless of who's community it is, I would think (my view) that whom ever is scheduled to have the child and if that parent agrees to take the child, then they should provide the gift. If the other parent is driving as a favour to the other and it is not during their regular visitation time, then they are not responsible for the gift.
The problem in that is, the parent has already paid CS (a lot of CS) to cover those things. So now they are caught... with no gift the payer must decide to spend (again) money on the child and allow them to go. Most likely they will, but it does get tiring. And as access increases, the odds of these things increase with no break in support.

If the paying parent was not involved, it would the soley the person receiving the CS to make these decisions. And if they do not take the child, they pocket the CS.

So you get financially burned for being involved. Payers all know this... the ultimate rock and hard place.
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"let's not forget your share" lol you took the works out of my mouth. Seems too often the payor's contribution is the only amount considered.
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today...

I couldn't even imagine

a) not having to PAY child support
b) receiving $346 per month

No wonder my ex is dumping so much into her RRSP's.
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LOL You can't help but laugh, it is the world we live in and nobody cares. LOL Oh well it is our children, what could be more important. Life goes on. Can't complain. (nobody would listen) LOL good day to all.
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Well ... I see some new faces and some old!

DD! Got too love you ... you always know how to incite a riot! LOL

Well, having to pay a fortune in CS, my ex asked me to pay for life jackets for the kids since I will be taking them to the camper this year -- I told her, that my money tree has not blossemed yet!

So, again does CS cover items deemed 'for the children' ...

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I see that I'm a little late on this post but I have a few questions. What does CS really cover? Food, Clothing, Shelter. Now what does everyone else do when they split their time with their ex`s. Do they send a bag of clothes back and forth? I am a payer and I would like it clarified on what CS covers. The ex asked me to supply my son with his own clothes at my house. I have a hard time with since I pay $1200/month for a single child.
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