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Old 11-29-2016, 09:27 AM
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Hello,
I'm new here and so far I see this site as an amazing vault of knowledge and experience! Hoping someone can give me a second opinion on something. My ex sent my child support to FRO last year. The amount to be paid was $500.00 per month. I have been paying it every month, never been late.
We recently went through a legal custody battle, and my child support payment was reassessed. It was increased to just under $800.00 per month. Her lawyer neglected to put in an actual dollar amount into the final order, and it was signed by a judge. Now they are coming back saying that FRO won't amend the child support amount because it's not listed on the final order. They sent us an amendment and want us to sign it so it can be signed by a judge and given to FRO. My question is this - can I just say tough luck, your lawyer messed up and you can reassess the amount next year, or do we HAVE to sign the amendment?

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Old 11-29-2016, 10:34 AM
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you should sign it as you know its the correct amount. Amounts are changed every year for the most part.

You don't sign, she takes it to court and you WILL be paying her legal fees plus still paying in the end.

Why do you keep saying "we" in your posting? I take it you are the new partner or something?

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CS is the right of the child not your ex. Does your child deserve to miss out on the increased amount because you want to argue neglect from a lawyer? Sign the forms and dont be a jerk. You both know the amount, the order issue is moot.
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Old 11-29-2016, 11:42 AM
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Not trying to be a jerk. My ex gets $1900 a month from baby bonus plus welfare.
She makes more money every month than I do because of this.
I had my kids every weekend for the last 3 years, now I have lost half my custody and only see them every 2nd weekend. I am heartbroken over this and angered that because she can get legal aid and I have to pay for a lawyer that she can keep attacking me legally. I'm just checking to see if I can finally get one small win out of this.
I want my kids full time, and am willing to pay 100% of everything for them should they live with me. I just can't afford to fight her in court anymore and she won't go to mediation
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Old 11-29-2016, 01:12 PM
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I am heartbroken over this and angered that because she can get legal aid and I have to pay for a lawyer that she can keep attacking me legally.
You know that famous saying in family court .. "Legal Aid gives you wings". I find it disgusting how some people leach off the Welfare/Legal Aid system.

But yea .. sign it. If she's going to continue using our tax dollars to be high conflict in court I suggest you start studying the FLR's, caselaw, etc and be your own lawyer for your bank account's sake.

What ever you do, don't join the "high conflict party". There might not be dollar amount in the order...but there are surely transcripts or other forms of proof that it was said..plus you know it was said. Don't go down that road or it'll bite you in the tooshy.

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CS is the right of the child not your ex. Does your child deserve to miss out on the increased amount because you want to argue neglect from a lawyer? Sign the forms and dont be a jerk. You both know the amount, the order issue is moot.
Paying CS has nothing to do with being a good parent. CS transfers money from one adult to another. You can make believe that CS is for the child when talking to the general public, but don't try to push that crap on this forum. It is complete bullshit and we all know it.
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Paying CS has nothing to do with being a good parent. CS transfers money from one adult to another. You can make believe that CS is for the child when talking to the general public, but don't try to push that crap on this forum. It is complete bullshit and we all know it.


I was attempting to point out that refusing to pay an amount he knows was ordered due to a mistake in the papers was ridiculous. Im sure his ex (like many others on this forum) is an absolute nightmare to deal with and ruined his life. However--the court ruled he was to pay this amount and he knows the court ruled he pay that amount. Pulling the wait until the lawyer pulls his head out of his ass game accomplishes nothing and may further hurt him in court if his ex is able to continually win.

Like it or not, cs is the right of the child in the courts eyes and pulling stunts helps no one.
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Paying CS has nothing to do with being a good parent. CS transfers money from one adult to another. You can make believe that CS is for the child when talking to the general public, but don't try to push that crap on this forum. It is complete bullshit and we all know it.
yes but the guy is a jerk when he knows the proper amount to pay but to do a little glitch he doesn't want to pay it. Not saying he isn't a good parent but as a human he is being a jerk.

If it was a woman not wanting to change CS to a lower amount due to an error in the paperwork I am sure you would have a different response.
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I agree, intent was for a certain amount of CS and the guy is going to have to pay it. His attempt to exploit a technical error will not work at all.

My issue was with Rockscan's statement:

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Does your child deserve to miss out on the increased amount
Which, to reiterate, is total bullshit. It really annoys me when people pretend that child support directly helps children in a bid to make NCP feel like they have a moral obligation to pay CS.

CS is a legal obligation. CS may or may not be a moral obligation depending on the facts on the ground. In most contested custody cases, CS is sure as shit not a moral obligation.

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If it was a woman not wanting to change CS to a lower amount due to an error in the paperwork I am sure you would have a different response.
I don't think I responded to the OP at all. Nice try at playing the sexist card though. Better luck next time!
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Old 11-30-2016, 12:34 AM
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Child support is public order which means it should always be correct by any means necessary. Agree to pay the proper amount now.

However, can you explain why you don't have shared custody (or why you lost it?). Maybe we can help with that...

And yes, child support is privatized welfare and is as much as the state thinks it can get away with where the majority of men won't just flee the country...
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