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Old 10-09-2015, 03:09 PM
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"The children will be made available for you to pick up at XX time."

That is no way a denial of access. Should he choose not to pick up the children he is choosing not to exercise his access.
Ringette... Same happening to me right now. Falling victim and giving in. Most recently with driving.

Good advice here. Follow it.
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Easy solution, communicate via email only. Let him know that due to the excessive number of texts you will no longer be able to text.

He will continue to text you. If there is anything requiring a response, you take ALL of the texts from that day and reply to them in a single email at your leisure and remind him that you will only communicate via email, by phone if necessary in urgent/emergency situations.

He will still continue to text you. Download an auto response app and have it set to reply to his texts with "Your SMS to XXX-XXX-XXXX was unable to be delivered. Additional data charges may apply."

Once you implement the above auto-response, don't reply to his texts at all. He can email you if necessary. Set up a filter to send the emails to a folder rather than getting a notification every time, and check the folder once per day.

Let him say whatever he wants, and he most definitely WILL rant and rave. But I'll tell you a secret: you're not his wife anymore. You have no obligation to entertain his abuse, rants, demands or anything. Reply only to anything relevant, civil and necessary pertaining to the care of the children.

You're just need to re-train yourself - and by doing so, you'll be re-training him as well.

You can do it!
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My daughter had the same problem. So she did send an email stating she will only receive emails in communication and only to her personal email, not,her work email,mmplus,she does not,except,phone calls and she has no voicemail, as he would fill it with irate nasty messages.

Works a charm.
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