Ottawa Divorce .com Forums


User CP

New posts

Advertising

  Ottawa Divorce .com Forums > Main Category > Divorce & Family Law

Divorce & Family Law This forum is for discussing any of the legal issues involved in your divorce.

Closed Thread
 
LinkBack Thread Tools
  #21 (permalink)  
Old 10-04-2017, 10:19 PM
arabian's Avatar
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: Western Canada
Posts: 9,916
arabian will become famous soon enough
Default

Sounds like your daughter is a responsible young person. You are very fortunate indeed.

It can't be easy dealing with a teenager after divorce. I recall when I was young having my parents tell me (when they were off on one of their annual trips to Europe) that if something ever happened to them I would have to go life with this one aunt/uncle. I was mortified. That literally gave me nightmares for years. I recall begging and pleading with my parents to change their death directives. I don't know if they ever did. So it must be very frustrating for your daughter to not be able to make decisions for herself insofar as to where she spends her time.

We don't know the history leading up to the agreement you now have. I would postulate that your ex insisted on the clause as she foresaw what is happening now? I have observed that kids like to go to the parent who is "party time" and where they are doted over, catered to, few house rules and of course, no "chores." Teenagers hate chores.

Teenagers also don't like it when they aren't the centre of attention.

You have been separated for 5 years now? You have to ask yourself what has changed in the past 5 years? Has your place become better? Does mom have a new roomie? New step-kids? Is your daughter's behavior new?
  #22 (permalink)  
Old 10-04-2017, 10:22 PM
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Dec 2016
Posts: 399
Ange71727 is on a distinguished road
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by bjjgal View Post
No offense but your advice is absolutely 100% horrific. And judging by the amount of time uou spend here: Thanks, but not thanks for your personal advice.

If you have nothing to add legally please stay off the thread. No one is taking a phone away a cell phone from an A+ student who also works 20-25 hrs. a week. She can afford her own phone.


Arabian is a pretty esteemed member of this community. Her advice is respected by most people on this forum. Yes there are many jaded people, but you're sounding like one of them! You aren't going to get anywhere alienating everyone. Sometimes it's tough love around here but I think the end goal for most is to try to help each other.


Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
  #23 (permalink)  
Old 10-04-2017, 10:24 PM
arabian's Avatar
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: Western Canada
Posts: 9,916
arabian will become famous soon enough
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by bjjgal View Post
No offense but your advice is absolutely 100% horrific. And judging by the amount of time uou spend here: Thanks, but not thanks for your personal advice.

If you have nothing to add legally please stay off the thread. No one is taking a phone away a cell phone from an A+ student who also works 20-25 hrs. a week. She can afford her own phone.
Yep you're the type who only hires lawyers who tells them what they want to hear.

I had a laugh when I read what your "new" lawyer told you.
If you take the time you can do a CanLii search and you will find MANY cases of parental alienation regarding 16-year-olds.

So... get your wallet ready.
  #24 (permalink)  
Old 10-04-2017, 10:26 PM
arabian's Avatar
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: Western Canada
Posts: 9,916
arabian will become famous soon enough
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Ange71727 View Post
Arabian is a pretty esteemed member of this community. Her advice is respected by most people on this forum. Yes there are many jaded people, but you're sounding like one of them! You aren't going to get anywhere alienating everyone. Sometimes it's tough love around here but I think the end goal for most is to try to help each other.


Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

Thanks.

I'm sure he loves his daughter and is very concerned. That is a good thing - parents who care.

Lawyer will take care of him (wink wink)
  #25 (permalink)  
Old 10-04-2017, 10:28 PM
Junior Member
 
Join Date: Sep 2017
Posts: 12
bjjgal is on a distinguished road
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by arabian View Post
Sounds like your daughter is a responsible young person. You are very fortunate indeed.

It can't be easy dealing with a teenager after divorce. I recall when I was young having my parents tell me (when they were off on one of their annual trips to Europe) that if something ever happened to them I would have to go life with this one aunt/uncle. I was mortified. That literally gave me nightmares for years. I recall begging and pleading with my parents to change their death directives. I don't know if they ever did. So it must be very frustrating for your daughter to not be able to make decisions for herself insofar as to where she spends her time.

We don't know the history leading up to the agreement you now have. I would postulate that your ex insisted on the clause as she foresaw what is happening now? I have observed that kids like to go to the parent who is "party time" and where they are doted over, catered to, few house rules and of course, no "chores." Teenagers hate chores.

Teenagers also don't like it when they aren't the centre of attention.

You have been separated for 5 years now? You have to ask yourself what has changed in the past 5 years? Has your place become better? Does mom have a new roomie? New step-kids? Is your daughter's behavior new?

Once again: I don't care. I don't care what happened to you 50 years ago. I don't care about your parents. I don't care about any lonely old jaded lady who has all this time to spend on one site. Imagine how time you spend online including other sites. You sound insane to be honest. You also sound like you are a loser. A loser in life and didn't rebound like you thought when you were dumped. Anyways, enjoy your life wallowing in misery here. You know nothing. You sound like one of the least intelligent people I have met.
  #26 (permalink)  
Old 10-04-2017, 10:29 PM
Junior Member
 
Join Date: Sep 2017
Posts: 12
bjjgal is on a distinguished road
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by arabian View Post
Yep you're the type who only hires lawyers who tells them what they want to hear.

I had a laugh when I read what your "new" lawyer told you.
If you take the time you can do a CanLii search and you will find MANY cases of parental alienation regarding 16-year-olds.

So... get your wallet ready.

Wallet's deep so I don't care.

Also, put your money where your lonely, miserable mouth is:

Cite the "cases" you speak. I'll wait...maybe.
  #27 (permalink)  
Old 10-04-2017, 10:32 PM
Junior Member
 
Join Date: Sep 2017
Posts: 12
bjjgal is on a distinguished road
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Ange71727 View Post
Arabian is a pretty esteemed member of this community. Her advice is respected by most people on this forum. Yes there are many jaded people, but you're sounding like one of them! You aren't going to get anywhere alienating everyone. Sometimes it's tough love around here but I think the end goal for most is to try to help each other.


Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

Esteemed members? You mean a lonely, jaded lady who didn't get 100% of everything so now lawyers are awful? Ok. You sound as miserable as her. Misery loves company huh lady?

And shouldn't you "ladies" (i.e. nut jobs) be taking care of the kiddies instead of spending all day here? Is that why you lost so bad in court?

"
You aren't going to get anywhere alienating everyone"

LOL. I already asked for my account to be canceled. This, like your husband marrying you, was a mistake.
  #28 (permalink)  
Old 10-04-2017, 10:33 PM
Junior Member
 
Join Date: Sep 2017
Posts: 12
bjjgal is on a distinguished road
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by arabian View Post
Thanks.

I'm sure he loves his daughter and is very concerned. That is a good thing - parents who care.

Lawyer will take care of him (wink wink)

Well, unlike you I am not a nut job and lawyer's take me seriously because I take their advice.

I have never been led astray by a lawyer so why would it happen now ?

Some of us actually present well in life .
  #29 (permalink)  
Old 10-04-2017, 10:36 PM
arabian's Avatar
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: Western Canada
Posts: 9,916
arabian will become famous soon enough
Default

Nope
Your're a rich guy. Have your lawyer have one of his juniors research it for you.

"lonely, miserable mouth" is that really necessary?

Also, you might find it interesting that many people on this forum have been successful in their respective family law litigation. In fact, their cases are used as case-law now.

So before you go on to insult everyone who offers their opinions you might want to think about that.

I will not offer you any assistance or further opinion.
  #30 (permalink)  
Old 10-04-2017, 10:38 PM
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Dec 2016
Posts: 399
Ange71727 is on a distinguished road
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by bjjgal View Post
Well, unlike you I am not a nut job and lawyer's take me seriously because I take their advice.

I have never been led astray by a lawyer so why would do it now ?

Some of us actually present well in life .


You're actually so over the top it's laughable. You should leave. Most people here know how to have a respectful conversation. You are obviously just looking for a fight.


Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
Closed Thread


Currently Active Users Viewing This Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
 
Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On


Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Back Child Support myminpins Divorce & Family Law 7 12-10-2009 11:24 PM
Chances of a Judge agreeing to go back to original agreement canniiee Divorce & Family Law 10 10-20-2009 02:37 PM
legal help? a bad situation.... shasha Divorce & Family Law 1 02-06-2009 09:15 PM
Support for 23 year old son gooddadgoingmad Financial Issues 3 07-19-2007 11:29 AM
dealing with emotions over divorce In-Law Trouble Divorce Support 46 12-23-2006 08:11 PM


All times are GMT -4. The time now is 11:13 AM.