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Old 07-07-2014, 12:55 AM
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Mommytime - when ppl get divorced they no longer have anything to do with each other unless there is something involving the children and it better be clear enough that you can prove it to a judge.

About my jerk commentary - I don't filter here on the forums - I call it hwo I really see it. In front of a judge I wouldn't say this and instead I would say:

"Yes, its true she was such a great girl - I guess we weren't compatible - we can be grrrrreat co parents though"

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Old 07-07-2014, 01:07 AM
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Oh I thinks he wants a fight, thats why he says what he says and that is why he is divorced. I think he is rather funny, always good entertainment. Lol:
I'm divorced because my ex is a ho - its not very complicated when your sending naked photos of yourself to your cousin but she is SUCH a great co-parent
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Old 07-07-2014, 10:25 AM
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And on another note, I married my ex mostly for sex I didn't realize/know about child/spousal support and all this other garbage otherwise I would have never gone this for with the tramp. All this "At one point, you trusted her BS" is BS. Just because I married you doesn't mean I thought you were smart enough to manage your own affairs. There are some people that are stupid and some that aren't. Being intelligent isn't always the reason to marry soembody
I find this honesty quite refreshing. And isn't it very often the case that we marry someone because of attraction, and the acknowledgement that they have strengths as well as weaknesses? People have different roles during a marriage, one's strengths making up for the other's weaknesses, and it isn't until the marriage ends that the weaknesses become a problem.

One spouse might be bad with money, so the other partner ends up being the one who manages the family budget. Then, when they separate, the bad money manager ends up in financial trouble. The good budgeter sees themselves trapped in endless, unecessary SS payments, or watches their CS payments get wasted instead of used for the children.

One spouse might have poor parenting skills, a failing that is made up for by the other spouse doing the bulk of the child care. It's okay during the marriage because the good parent is there to pick up the slack. Break them up and give them 50-50, and suddenly you have the child suffering at the poor parent's home, and the good parent despairing of what's going to become of their child.

The logic that we were okay with these traits when we married the person so we should keep accepting them now is irrelevant, because we never expected to break up with them at that point. We expected to operate as a team and continue be able to make up for the weaknesses by being around all the time.
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I'm divorced because my ex is a ho ....

Hilarious! Well you certainly tell it like it is!
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I also do not see anything wrong with Links 17 calling his Ex a Ho ... I've many times referred to my STBX as a scumbag, Ahole and God's gift to Satan. Of course I would never talk that way in a courtroom setting.

In front of a judge - I refer to him as my son's father.
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We prefer " trailer trash".
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We prefer " trailer trash".
see now that's a term I hate. My parents moved to a trailer due to mobility issues and downsizing. I know lots of good people that live in trailers (retired, seasonal campgrounds etc) That term seems to lump them all as bad people.

I know you didn't mean it like that though.
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In public or around D8, I refer to him as D8's father. In private, he's the crex (short for "crazy ex"). A couple of my friends have started referring to their difficult former spouses as crexes too, so maybe it's catching on...

I agree about not liking the term "trailer trash" - lots of quite decent people live in trailers for financial reasons.
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And so do all the other terminology. We need to call them ex or Mom or Dad not derogatory terms.

Ps I also lived in a trailer park, so I used the term to make a point. Its not good to call anyone anything other than their name or their title so either. Ex, Mom Dad etc. Not "ho"

Children have big ears and pick up on all sorts.
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Lucky for me, our son is in his twenties and probably knows worse "derogatories" than anythingI could ever dream up .... Though I agree that young children should never have to hear one parent drag the other's name in the dirt.

As tempting as it was at the time - I always had to remind myself that the douchebag was his beloved Dad and 50% of what created him.
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