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Links17 03-13-2014 02:56 PM

Step-Parents
 
Are there any statistics about abuse by step-parents that anybody knows about?

Amazingly, I haven't found so much.

FightingForFamily 03-13-2014 04:05 PM

I don't have any sources, but the "general knowledge" on the subject suggests that children are abused most often by people close to them, and that step parents are more likely to harbour negative/abusive thoughts towards step children than biological parents do.

I don't have any other explanation for how I was treated by CAS and the police. I was a "good suspect" because I was involved with the children, I was a male, and I was not their parent. 1 + 1 + 1 = 666 in their eyes apparently.

They questioned everything, even "why" was I helping with laundry, or "how" I would wash my son in the bath tub.

Links17 03-13-2014 04:16 PM

Actually, I've found quite a bit now and yeah this is a strong/significant association with step fathers and abuse it seems.

On the flip-side its completely ignored by the court - I'll theorize the feminist agenda (women want to remarry and this hampers that).

DowntroddenDad 03-13-2014 04:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Links17 (Post 166357)
Actually, I've found quite a bit now and yeah this is a strong/significant association with step fathers and abuse it seems.

On the flip-side its completely ignored by the court - I'll theorize the feminist agenda (women want to remarry and this hampers that).

What a bunch of BS.

An abuser is an abuser. Parents can be abusers, step parents can be absuers.

Criminal Courts do not ignore abuse, at least when there is evidence to support an allegation. Family courts don't ignore it either when it is proved.

There are far more step fathers who are loving kind non abusive parents than step parents who abuse.

You sir have some issues, and through your lens, everything is against you.

Tell us why you ask the question, is your ex remarrying?

Links17 03-13-2014 04:33 PM

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Originally Posted by DowntroddenDad (Post 166359)
What a bunch of BS.

How do you know, I haven't even posted what I've found yet

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Originally Posted by DowntroddenDad (Post 166359)
An abuser is an abuser. Parents can be abusers, step parents can be absuers.

I agree, in fact step parents can be BETTER parents than bio-parents. However, statistically speaking this may not be the case. I am sure there are great step parents.

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Originally Posted by DowntroddenDad (Post 166359)
Criminal Courts do not ignore abuse, at least when there is evidence to support an allegation. Family courts don't ignore it either when it is proved.

I agree, what I am wondering is - Does the increased risk of something itself get considered....

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Originally Posted by DowntroddenDad (Post 166359)
There are far more step fathers who are loving kind non abusive parents than step parents who abuse.

I agree probably FAR more. But if 80% were not abusive and 20% were then I wonder?

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Originally Posted by DowntroddenDad (Post 166359)
You sir have some issues, and through your lens, everything is against you.

I do have some issues, all imposed on me by others :) - not everything is against me.

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Originally Posted by DowntroddenDad (Post 166359)
Tell us why you ask the question, is your ex remarrying?

PErhaps, the possibility exists - are you a step-parent by any chance?

DowntroddenDad 03-13-2014 05:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Links17 (Post 166362)
How do you know, I haven't even posted what I've found yet


I agree, in fact step parents can be BETTER parents than bio-parents. However, statistically speaking this may not be the case. I am sure there are great step parents.


I agree, what I am wondering is - Does the increased risk of something itself get considered....


I agree probably FAR more. But if 80% were not abusive and 20% were then I wonder?


I do have some issues, all imposed on me by others :) - not everything is against me.


PErhaps, the possibility exists - are you a step-parent by any chance?

In fact, I'm not a step parent. My ex will be soon, and clearly by extention someone will be a step parent to my kids.

And I think you have to define abuse. Those fuzzy stats may or may not include verbal or emotional abuse, physical abuse or sexual abuse. I don't make light of abuse, I understand it exists, but I also know that stats are often misstated.

Tayken 03-14-2014 12:22 PM

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Originally Posted by DowntroddenDad (Post 166365)
And I think you have to define abuse. Those fuzzy stats may or may not include verbal or emotional abuse, physical abuse or sexual abuse. I don't make light of abuse, I understand it exists, but I also know that stats are often misstated.

That is the difficulty with the term "abuse"...

http://www.ottawadivorce.com/forum/f...ase-law-16809/

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[13] Allegations of abuse may be a symptom of the failure of a relationship. Blame is an inherent part of the allegation. Sometimes it is wholly warranted; other times it is not. When parties are not communicating, any slight or criticism is magnified. There is a tendency to minimize the other spouse’s good qualities and maximize the bad. Warring spouses are rarely in a position to step back and evaluate the other’s behaviour with objective eyes. Nor are they able to critically assess their own behaviour...
Good Luck!
Tayken

Links17 03-14-2014 01:48 PM

Childhood Sexual Abuse: A Reference Handbook - Karen L. Kinnear - Google Books

Read page 8 - not vouching for its validity but this is an issue that is unstudied.

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http://www.massey.ac.nz/~wwcppe/pape...4/cppeip4i.pdf

pg 96
Children are at far greater risk of abuse from step-parents than from natural parents.
The Christchurch Health and Development Study has collected data from a birth cohort
of over 1200 youngsters since 1977. A study of 1019 members of this cohort when they
were aged 18 year-olds found an overall prevalence rate of child sexual abuse of 10.4%
(n = 132).
31
Sexual abuse included incidents that were not identified as abusive by
those interviewed and ranged in severity from intercourse down to leering and
suggestive comments. Only 2 (1.5%) of those cases involved natural parents as
perpetrators but 22.5% of accused offenders were step-parents. A number of other
studies also have indicated that step-fathers are far more likely to engage in serious
sexual abuse with their step-daughters than natural fathers.
32,33,34
For example,
Finkelhor found
that “a step-father was five times more likely to sexually victimise a
daughter than was a natural father”
.
Biological fathers who form strong early attachments with their children and who are
actively involved in their children’s nurturing are far less likely to abuse them. Paternal
support in the form of affection, promotion of independence, and positive modelling /
fairness reduces the likelihood of abuse. Furthermore, a strong father / child bond acts
as a mitigating effect, reducing the chance of children developing ongoing problems
should they suffer maltreatment in the future.

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Remarriage is generally considered positive because of the financial aspect and it "makes the mother happy" but I THINK that is just an assumption and the net impact on the children is negative (just theorizing here).

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These things need to be examined I think.

Tayken 03-14-2014 02:09 PM

Not sure how much I can rely upon information from "The Christchurch Health and Development Study" as how it is re-presented. Not sure what is going on in NZ but, these statistics (as presented above) are whack. 1200 is too small of a sample size to draw any sort of conclusion like the author of this book is trying to apply. I hate selective edits when people are citing "statistics".

Not sure if you are a student of mathematical statistics but, I can offer you my opinion: I suspect that none were applied to the example you have provided. Or if they were applied, they were possibly applied incorrectly or manipulated in the re-publication process to support the author of this book's "theory"...

Lies, damn lies and statistics...

Good Luck!
Tayken

DowntroddenDad 03-14-2014 02:14 PM

One of my online nemisises from another forum used to ask the question; therefore what?

Even if we do take one study as accurate, and as a trained social scientist, I wouldn't do that, what would you suggest? Should no one remarry when there are kids involved? So you punish 90 % of the population (and I would suggest it is higher).

I would suggest that couples considering getting married after divorces who have children go slow and take great deliberate care in moving forward, not because of potential abuse, but because of other issues in blending families that are far more common than abuse.


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