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Old 05-01-2010, 05:51 PM
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I vote against.
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As for us being disappointed for him not doing something stupid, isn't that what we have been trying to stop him from doing????
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Old 05-01-2010, 07:14 PM
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Jackass. Done.
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Thanks for the lunchtime amusement!
I seriously hope that the Ottawa police have started a file on you. What you have said you've done would make me fearful...I'm sure the other family is.
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Old 05-03-2010, 10:10 PM
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Maybe you should stop focusing on them and start focusing on fixing your marriage. Do you really think your wife will not do this again? She's pretty nuts staying with you, does she know what your intentions are?
Not that I really want to offer advice on this but have you ever thought of maybe writing her a letter and maybe sending it registered mail that only she can sign for it? YUCK, I didn't want to add to this but you are just scaring everyone on here! Stop will you!
I don't think you will give this a rest otherwise and I really think that you need to leave them alone. Your wife was just a part of this mess as he is so she's to blame too!
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But then again if she knows what you are up to, she's not all upstairs either.....
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Old 05-03-2010, 10:30 PM
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I'm in the following situation:
I found out that my wife has been cheeting on me for half of year, with her ex-boyfriend from Montreal. She gave up that relationship, and we are trying to reconcile, but being a vindictive fellow, I would like to contact his wife, and let her know everything about it.
I had all the contact information initially, and I did call his house to let her know. He suspected it's me, so he kept picking up the phone to prevent me from talking to her. I called for three days in a row, probabily around 10 times a day, but I kept either getting him, or his fax machine. In the end, on the third day, I finally got their answering machine, so I left a message stating who I am, what it's about and my contact information. I got a message from him accusing me of harrasment, and telling me he logged a complaint with the Montreal police. I don't really believe he did that, because he als wrote a message to my wife, asking her to make me stop. Also, this whole thing happend in March, and I did not get any call from any police about anything yet. Anyway, since I was trying to work things out with my wife, I stopped. But in the meantime, I got my wife to agreeing I should do whatever I feel like about this guy if I feel it helps me psychologicly, so I'm back to where I started. Sort of. He changed his phone, of course, so I don't have his number anymore.
My question: can there be anything legaly wrong for me to get over to his residence and ring his bell when he's not home ? He's at work in the morning, and his wife does not work, so I can easily do that, but can this be considered harrasment in any way ?
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Apparently he harassed her too until she gave in and agreed to make him shutup about it. Real piece of work this guy.
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Old 05-05-2010, 12:27 AM
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For someone who feels he's "waisitng" so much time at this board, he certainly is spending an AWFUL lot of time post-stalking this thread....
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tugofwar, thanks for the sugestion, it was a good one. Did not know that a registered letter can not be signed for by the spouse, but I checked, and it looks like that's the way it is.
But there is nothing I can use it for now. The police finally wrote back - may be illegal, be very careful. Strongly advised against any kind of contact, direct or indirect. Mail would be indirect, I suspect.
That was a pretty clear message. At least it saves me a trip to the lawyer.
Anyway, I have been reading some other threads, and I have to say, I did not realise there are so many people in the same situation as me, or who were in the same situation as me. And some on this thread too, other than sidelines. Makes for an interesting and quite helpfull read. But I suspect all these marriages have failed. Would be nice to read about some that made it - maybe a different web site.
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. Would be nice to read about some that made it - maybe a different web site.
You could always try www.crazyf*#(ers.com
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If I was in a relationship like yours and chose to stay, I would not call that "making it". I would call it personal failure.
There was a reason your marriage is in jeopardy..find it and fix it.
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