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Old 01-18-2014, 01:14 PM
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More than 40% of domestic violence victims are male, report reveals



More than 40% of domestic violence victims are male, report reveals | Society | The Observer

Family violence is everybody's problem. Hopefully future legislation will take these statistics seriously.
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Old 01-18-2014, 01:30 PM
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Intimate Partner Abuse Against Men

I suspect that the Canadian statistic are lower than what the actual numbers would be in reality - many do not press charges for fear of legal repercussions, ridicule or simply give up because of the system itself being unresponsive to them.

There is abuse of the system and apathy on either side of the fence. Having gone through it myself all I can say is this: If you are being abused, get help, make noise, document everything and press charges. Be patient, the process is slow and at times you will feel like giving up.

If more people report these crimes, eventually the laws will change.
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What I am interested is what are the real stats based on "Serious harm".
I agree a slap or punch is never acceptable (like NEVER).... but I think the reason police take one seriously or not is because they see women come in black & blue but maybe never see a man?
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What I am interested is what are the real stats based on "Serious harm".
I agree a slap or punch is never acceptable (like NEVER).... but I think the reason police take one seriously or not is because they see women come in black & blue but maybe never see a man?

It's up to the individual who has been abused to first get medical help - have it documented and then decide whether to press charges or not. The police will take things seriously if the victim has evidence backed up by a doctor or credible ER staff. (this applies to men/women/children).

As far as statistics are concerned, I would suspect that many people seeking medical help after a domestic incident don't admit to it out of fear or shame. If the abuse is of a psychological nature it becomes a matter of ''he says she says'' - which is practically impossible to prove.

Best thing to do is cut your losses, get out of the relationship asap and look into getting some kind of therapy to deal with the aftermath.
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This article has corroborating references and statistics regarding violence and includes violence against men:

The Facts About Violence Against Women | Canadianwomen.org


http://www.statcan.gc.ca/daily-quoti...30225a-eng.htm

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Thanks Arabian for ^^^ post. I'm sure it will be very useful to those seeking help or in depth statistics
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what are your thoughts on abused women punished by the court for coming forward with their abuse during custody battles?
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Courts might not have accepted the evidence of abuse. People cry "abuse" frequently thinking it will give them an edge in custody. Bringing false accusations against someone is, indeed, an offence that may be punished severely.
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lately i found lots of real abused women pay for the other women who made false accusations of abuse. i agree that those women should even be sent to jail for their lies but would n't be fair for a truly abused woman with no choice to get justice at the end. the legal system should be specialized in this matter so no victim will be victimized again. a smart judge will make the difference unless they are too busy rushing over their cases to finish their day.
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lately i found lots of real abused women pay for the other women who made false accusations of abuse. i agree that those women should even be sent to jail for their lies but would n't be fair for a truly abused woman with no choice to get justice at the end. the legal system should be specialized in this matter so no victim will be victimized again. a smart judge will make the difference unless they are too busy rushing over their cases to finish their day.
Unfortunately, this is impossible if you penalize women for making false accusations - you'll reduce the incentive to make the "real" accusations and unless it is EXTREMELY flagrant the system would prefer not to discourage abused women from coming forward by penalizing liars.
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