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Old 09-07-2012, 10:07 PM
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Littlehope: I did not use the words "liar" or "evil" and I can assure you, I'm very calm - so I don't need to "calm down" as you suggest.

The woman hating campaign comment is based on countless previous threads/comments by slughead who finds himself, more often than not - at odds with other members of this forum.

I have nothing personal against Slughead. On rare occasions, we even almost get along. From my observations, Slughead merely enjoys taking jabs here and there, (often against women) but at the same time I get the sense he does this more for "reaction" and is probably not nearly as offensive in person. (Hopefully). The good news is: we will never "really know" given that this is an on-line forum.
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Slughead was replying to sjandme comment on how statistically women are more abused than men.

Slughead just gave a link showing how this socially acceptance belief is NOT necessary true.

I don't see where this "I hate women" campaign you speak of.

Just because you don't like the facts, doesn't mean the person who is showing the facts is a liar or evil.

Calm down.
you really need to read some of slugs comments in other threads to see the common links in his posts. Please point out where hadenough used the words liar and evil. I dont see those words so where did you get them from???
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Good advice,my ex and her parents have called CAS five times on me and everytime it has come back as nothing.I have told CAS I have an open door policy they are welcome anytime they want.It is tough as heck to hear lies about yourself and someone attacking your character just know if you keep your cool all will come out in the end.
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Old 09-13-2012, 08:39 AM
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Can I join this thread? 7 false allegations, 2 apology letters from CA's, 2 successful conduct complaints against the idiot officer that broke procedure, and 1 alert in the CA's database about my ex. (Ie. She calls or has someone do so anonymously and its auto assigned the lowest priority)
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Old 09-13-2012, 09:23 AM
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Totally agree.
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Old 09-13-2012, 10:10 AM
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sometimes when you dont have a good defenss you can allways fall back on being offensive.....

i bet tayken even has a name for this
Being observant to the past behaviour patterns of people on this board?

Reading the full body of the content and provided links by the posters?

Bringing counter evidence based medicine and statistics to counter biased gender steriotypes brought forward equally by both misogynistsand Misandrists?

Calling equally both these groups of people who create unnecessary gender bias and aim solely to point all their problems on the gender rather than the situation before the court they are actually involved in?

The term for this is Critical Thinking.
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Old 09-13-2012, 10:14 AM
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its not allways what you say but how you say it........
Just an observation in general:

Many posters exhibiting high-conflict patterns of behaviour try to control the posters of this site by withholding information regarding their position, giving limited information, giving conflicting or false information, withholding information until after a a post has been made and/or withholding information until the last minute in an attempt to create conflict with other members.

Often, they are unable to provide particulars similar to those who make false allegations of intimate partner and child abuse.
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Just an observation in general:

Many posters exhibiting high-conflict patterns of behaviour try to control the posters of this site by withholding information regarding their position, giving limited information, giving conflicting or false information, withholding information until after a a post has been made and/or withholding information until the last minute in an attempt to create conflict with other members.

Often, they are unable to provide particulars similar to those who make false allegations of intimate partner and child abuse.
May I just point out one minute point?This is after all a public forum and going into great detain on certain aspects of our respective cases could be considered foolhardy.You have pointed this out yourself, on more than one occasion.While some posters withhold as per your observation,others do for security reasons.
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a glaring example of how an f'in abuser can make a truck load of false allegations and get away with it.

CanLII - 2006 CanLII 727 (ON SC)

the poor man went through a DECADE of false allegations, was charged multiple times, as per the judge plead guilty to couple of charges to avoid trail costs (very common unfortunately) and punishment to the abuser despite the entire system recognizing her as a liar = NOTHING!

all she had to do was pay a 5k fine for contempt of court on a matter of custody. (if she did pay at all, is not known!)

I call shame on the judge for not granting the fine, he mentioned all the abuse the victim went through, commended his conduct but provided virtually no indemnification.
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Old 09-13-2012, 07:54 PM
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Not sure if this is the right area.

My Former Spouse is a graduate of the Abused Womens Advocacy program at George Brown College. She worked at Several Womens Shelters in the years before we met.

When we seperated in 2008, she made allegations of abuse. The police investigated and found them to be baseless. On the advice of my lawyer, I stopped verbally communicating with her in 2008 and we "talk" only with txts and the comm journal so there is always a written record.

In the four years since, she has on several occassions called the police and made allegations that I am stalking her or that she is "in fear" for her safety. The thing is, I never actually see her except at the exchange of the children, or once in a while in school and we never talk directly.

Last september she made a false and malicious report to child and family services of child sexual abuse. The Police and CFS determined that the complaints were baseless. Both organizations acknowledged that she had lied, and that there was proof, but they would not prosecute because (in there words) "There was a low chance of conviction because she is a first time offender"...WTF?

Both Organizations informed me that her actions would however be taken into account on any future complaints. The RCMP Constable went as far as saying she is now on the "loonie" list. He said that my area has many women and some men who make great sport out of regularly filing false reports with no consequences.

Just when I thought I was over the events of last september, she is now telling staff at the school where our three kids go, that I am a threat to her and she is afraid for her life. Most of them laugh about it when they tell me what she has said, but it really bothers me that she can walk around saying things that imply I am some sort of monster without the burden of proof.

The Police have told me they have no concerns, and that this is just a continuation of her previous behaviour.

Is their anything I can do? Has anyone dealt with this situation before?
If she has complained to police and police has refused to lay any charges on you, request incident reports through "Freedom of information", read through those reports, ask police to lay mischif charges on her, if police refuse to lay those charges, take those reports, go to a JP and get mischief charges laid on her
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