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Old 10-22-2014, 08:45 PM
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The road ahead may get bumpy, but there's help out there if you need it:


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Janibel: Thank you once again for another thoughtful post which is useful for all users of this site.
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And thank you for 'getting it' Mike62, spousal abuse clearly is not a gender specific problem. It can happen to anyone, any age, any background. Nobody should have to put up with being mistreated - there's help out there and it's only a phone call away.
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Thanks for the great link! It's good to have such information at hand and floating in forums...
Interesting enough, there was a study done on divorced parents and spousal abuse, in which this study found alarming rates of spousal abuse after separation/divorce even when there had been no prior incidents or reports of abuse amongst the couple. The study also concluded that spousal abuse was on the rise, at an above average pace.
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The after separation period can be very dangerous in certain cases. The stress of moving out, financial constraints, less time with the kidlets all add up - many ppl are depressed at this point and it can push them over the edge.

I've changed the locks of my doors, I have a restraining order yet if Ex were determined enough nothing would stop him .... so far, so good. Moving away was suggested to me, but I'll be damned if I have to leave everything for his sake? I refuse to live in fear. Besides that my son is 6'4'' and my dogs don't know the Ex
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When my ex and I first split up I was fortunate to have an excellent security alarm system. Police had removed him several times before so they knew my situation and response time was ok (it felt alot longer than it really was). I really didn't feel safe until I moved into a condo though. Then moved to the other side of the city. Ex's g/f continued to stalk. Yes very stressful. Moving is an excellent option if safety is an issue.
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Yes those are great avenues to take when you fear for you or your children's physical safety!

I had 60 pages of text messages (a years worth) from ex that were incredibly hostile, aggressive and threatening, it was so stressful to deal with. I went to my local police station and they instructed me that I could go and get a restraining order but that they could not lay charges because he wasn't threatening me physically or my property...There's that fine line that police will not get involved in such matters.

In my opinion, having the front door being kicked in by my 6'4, 275lbs EX or emotionally and psychologically abusing me to the point of demanding a third party involvement (because we have a child together), a no contact order and therapy to help cope with the damage should be one in the same...We scold children who are bullies and strict laws are passed so that there are consequences to actions yet nothing in the adult criminal code for the "lesser" types of abuse...
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