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Old 09-17-2014, 12:35 PM
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For your kids, this may just be "normal life". If they aren't showing signs of emotional or behavioral disturbance, they may be adapting to their volatile mother (and you deserve some of the credit for being a stabilizing influence in their lives than enables them to weather the storms at the other home). It's pretty common for kids to love a parent but not to like that parent's life. Kids can have a less-than -ideal home, but still be okay. Just keep remaining neutral about their mother, while making sure they know they can talk to you about anything.
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Old 11-04-2014, 12:45 AM
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If it is happening regularly then I would think it is appropriate for a 3rd party, such as a child psychologist, to work with/assess your son.
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the feminist are leading you down the path, cause if she continues to abuse you might just be the preferred parent, the child is secondary concern from my experience.

listen up , family law is 'socialist', not matter what a misfit parent she might be you will not get custody in 99% percent of the situations similar to what you posted.

if she screams at the child, tells the child your an ass or even that your not their real father the therapist can and will do everything in their power to make sure the child doesn't want to live with dad.

before I am attacked and over posted by the feminists controlling this site do yourself a favor and call 'Human Rights' and ask what rights you have in a custody suite if the therapist tells your child they should live with mom

you Dad have no rights, the therapist will work to make sure the child stays exactly where they are ...

their attitude is based on 1960 social issues that children don't need their bio dad.

going to court especially with a lawyer tells the Judge ( probably born in a time she wasn't legally allowed to vote ) that you got $ so they will take it from you - and then you cant afford to pay for section 7's your kids need ...

no one tells you this

I know ... I now have teenager girls asking why they were sent to 'mom' and why the therapist told them ' your a girl, its only normal to live with mom'
in an extreme abuse situation.

be careful dad's

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Old 11-04-2014, 01:23 AM
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... the feminists controlling this site....
curious statement pokeman - I believe the owner of the site is a male lawyer.
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Old 11-04-2014, 01:51 AM
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never see the owner post , its just a rumor like most of the internet,
does it really matter or detract from my post - should I retract in 'weasel
words' to keep your hierarchy happy ?, you do the Western Canada shift right ?

would think you'd focus on issues like therapists lying or lack of human rights which are direct accusations in my statement above ... something more important, oh right ... important to men , understand why you skipped over that Arabian.

that's why I ask dad's to ask their family and friends 'who has the children'
and not listen to you Arabian, or me - you shouldn't have a problem with that Arabian if your truly trying to help people on this site.

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Old 11-04-2014, 09:42 AM
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never see the owner post , its just a rumor like most of the internet,
does it really matter or detract from my post - should I retract in 'weasel
words' to keep your hierarchy happy ?, you do the Western Canada shift right ?

would think you'd focus on issues like therapists lying or lack of human rights which are direct accusations in my statement above ... something more important, oh right ... important to men , understand why you skipped over that Arabian.

that's why I ask dad's to ask their family and friends 'who has the children'
and not listen to you Arabian, or me - you shouldn't have a problem with that Arabian if your truly trying to help people on this site.

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Let me put this in non-weasel words so you don't misunderstand me:

Your misogynist statements are not appropriate or appreciated. If you want to pontificate your views of the lack of services for men regarding domestic violence please restrain yourself from making personal attacks on me or other female contributors to this forum. In fact the more you continue on with your manner of expressing yourself, the more I suspect that you (and not your ex) have an anger management issue - you don't do a very good job at disguising your derision of the female gender.

I do try to assist people on this site. Unlike you I do not rant and rave incessantly on a topic wildly accusing people of being "socialists" or "feminists" simply because I had a bad day in court.

It goes without saying that there are good and bad social workers. In your perspective and experience you believe you came up against a biased individual who effected the outcome of your custody situation. You have made yourself quite clear.However, you have received abundant sympathy and words of encouragement and support from people on this forum in previous posts.

I do not recall anyone posting on this forum stating that men did not deserve the same help and assistance that women receive regarding domestic violence.
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Old 11-04-2014, 10:26 AM
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You know pokemon if you arent eloquent and dont cite your sources then you just feed into the stereotype of crazy father rights activist. The goal is to make a change...
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Old 11-04-2014, 09:07 PM
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I can understand Pokeman,s outrage at what was done to him and his children, and if what he claims is true - the system has truly let him down ...
Unfortunately, the way he expresses that outrage is counter-productive and will probably do more harm than good in regards to his cause and those of similar nature.
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