What is fair?

[supermean]

I tend to agree with engouhalready on this. If she is gonna take you to court she is gonna do that anyway. If you voluntarily give something you would acknowledge indirectly that you owed her something. 3 years is not even a relationship in my opinion. So don't give in to her bluffing game.

[billm]

Originally Posted by got2bkid

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I also moved into my ex boyfriends home many years ago. I helped him pay the mortgage, also helped him renovate (financially and physically). His home skyrocketed in price due to timing, but when we broke up I never even gave a thought to if he "owed" me anything. It was my choice to live with him, in his house, even to help him fix it up. He made a smart decision when he bought the house for a good deal, why should I profit? ....

What a beautiful thing to hear after reading all the greedy entitlement crap in this forum. There is a strong, proud, and reasonable person.