Well it has came to this!

[confused and mad]

I was fortunate enough to have to call in the services of our boys in blue this morning, or yesterday morning as I am being tailed, by whom i dont know. Since my denial which comes to a head on Friday morning in court I have been under a total denial from the mom, anyways this took place on May 1, 2007. I fianlly received an Interim Interim Order from the court, this was to my knowledge that it had to be given as my ex's lawyer read her the riot act that she coulndt deny for unfound allegations.

Since the denail I have noticed different cars outside my place and each and everytime I try to get plates to say the least i am unsuccessful the people bolt. I have for the most part stayed out of the way of my ex, other than to drive by on my lawyers instructions to find out if she is even in town as she is a flight risk to leave the country and has my daughters passport.

Last night i went to go to the store and had someone sneaking behind me, I played into it and turned into a parking lot quickly, when I crept up behind them their lights went out and they took off through an intersection through a red light. Shortly after when I got back i saw another vehilce do the same thing only sneka up down the road. As I got back to my truck i thought ok Im going to walk down and see who this is, kaboom gone, no lights again.

Anyways after my 4 hour waiting delay I got the chance to speak to a constable, apprised my lawyer first and siad why the hell would PI'S if that be following me, my lawyer shrugged, said its ridiculous. My exes family has ties to some pretty bad people and I have let the managment group know that in fact this is whats going on and they said they will keep an eye out on this.

The cop I talked to was astonished (though Im sure they act that way and will say what you want to hear) about the crap that is going on. I told him, look we up until the 9th didnt even know where my daughter was, her care, who was providing it, nothing and it is in my scope as a parent to know that. I told him I have not heard from my ex nor do I attempt to contact her and other than tracking on of these idiots on Staurday night I havent been aorund our home other than on instruction from counsel to see if my child was around.

I know what my ex is doing, she is trying to make me do something stupid, you know its funny, Im filing a stalking claim and the cop looks at me and asks me if he wants me to talk to her I said no, I said I want it on record that this is going on, he agreed with that.

Is there anything else I should be doing, the cop told me to get a camera and get the plates that might make it stop but this is always done during the night.

Other than that just being concerned, one of these people are going to hurt someone and as far as my ex she can do what she wants on her time but i will never stop fighting for my child. My parents feel as they work in family law) once again she is waiting for me to blow a gasket, not going to happen. Anyways wanted to know if someone out there is going through or has been through a like situation and has any advice.

Like i said when I told the cop, I made sure he knew of the threats I have had, the coercion that has gone on and even the threat from her parents, he said "you have all this documented" I said its all in the courts and she hasnt refuted it and the courts have the threat from her parents.

Anyways some advice would be great

[FL_Needs_To_Change]

I was stalked by my ex.
It pretty much went unaddressed until (A) he physically said something threatening that I could get on tape, as hear say does not work in criminal court, (wish family law worked that way). and (B) physically harmed me or someone in my family.

Kept filing reports, kept taking pictures and video and recordings of any conversations. It is a whole other world when dealing with this kind of thing.
FYI any family court orders regarding harassment and contact are not as strong as far as enforceability goes as a court order or restraining order from a criminal court. Family law is based too heavily on he said she said, and law enforcement would better respect a criminal court document as it carries greater weight. Seek a restraining or no contact order. It can be as specific as not being closer than 1000 meters, not to attend your home or residential area, etc

I actually had people follow me, people telephone me literally 100’s of times a day either saying nothing or hang up. It came to a head when an ex of my ex called to warn me of impending physical harm. My ex had hired someone to “rough me up a bit” take my children and “burn the house to the ground” “leave her with nothing”. Went to court on that, and just like family court the innocent got the bad end of the stick. In criminal court there are far too many loop holes and laws protecting the rights of the charged/guilty so you cannot expect the “truth” to help you there either, just like in family court, only the sneaky, underhanded, dishonest people get ahead.

Advice, document, document, document. They cannot refute hard proof.
Always report the incidents; if this needs to go to either criminal or family court you can get a print out of the incidents. Please be careful, I’d stay away from the ex’s house, I know you are trying to find out if the children are in town and ok, but if you get yourself hurt what good are you to them then?