Preemptive strike (adult interdependent partnership agreement)

[justsayno]

So if you didn't want to have to worry about becoming common law with someone and them taking your stuff, couldn't you just sign an adult interdependent partnership agreement with one of your parents (assuming they aren't married)? If I read the "adult interdependent partnership" details correctly, you can only have one "adult interdependent partner", and it can be a friend or family member.

This seems like a stupid law to me (the adult interdependent partnership), but at least it seems like you can make a preemptive strike to keep gold diggers away from your cash, while still enjoying the benefits of shacking up.

[dinkyface]

So, what exactly are you trying to avoid? Please, come up with a detailed, realistic (no movie stars) hypothetical example for us to discuss.

It seems you are in Alberta, so I'm not sure if you will get a lot of informed/experience-based responses from this forum...

[piggybanktoex]

If both people aremaking similar dollars, no big issue.

If one is making 3-5 times more, it could bite you on the ass after 3 years.

[dinkyface]

Are you concerned about having to pay spousal support? Or about having to give away 50% of a house that you bought prior to your relationship (or a house that you bought solely with your own dollars during your relationship)?

[logicalvelocity]

Confusing and not clear as to your jurisdiction. However, in Ontario the Family Law Act provides for Cohabitation Agreements. Perhaps similar relief is provided in your location.

[Mess]

He is Alberta and they have these strange adult interdependent partnerships, which I think replace common law relationships, with an odd twist, you can have them between room-mates, adult children and parents, brother and sister, etc. It makes sense in a way, but it is scary if it kicks in automaticly after a few years with a room-mate.

[justsayno]

I'm a she. And I do have a paid off house that I own. I've never lived with anyone before. And I don't like how you can get trapped into this common law BS without consent. (With roommates even, it sounds like - you don't have to be banging the person in the "adult interdependent partnership" with you.)

[blinkandimgone]

Classy.

[dadtotheend]

Originally Posted by justsayno

I'm a she. And I do have a paid off house that I own. I've never lived with anyone before. And I don't like how you can get trapped into this common law BS without consent. (With roommates even, it sounds like - you don't have to be banging the person in the "adult interdependent partnership" with you.)

You still haven't laid out your specific concerns, even after being asked. Instead you almost make your questions more confusing.

Good thing you're a she. If a he talked about banging someone here, you can bet he would hear about it.

[piggybanktoex]

I would imagine that the fear would be having to fork out support payments to someone who is no longer "banging" you.

The whole screwed up law concerning the concept of need, want, entitlement, and paying for others is beyond belief.

I would be worried too about getting myself into that situation ever again.

And you don't need to be a movie star to get financially messed up for life.