Ontario Works coming after my brother

[wretchedotis]

Originally Posted by dinkyface

Wretched Otis ... WHERE ON EARTH are you getting your information from? It sounds like you have read some info from other forum posters (who may have read some 3rd hand anectode from another forum poster) and are just exaggerating it.

Can you provide some kind of source to back up your statement that double dipping on CS is common?

I can't pinpoint a source for you off the top of my head - like I said it is simply my understanding.

McDreamy seems to have some personal knowledge of it.
When I said "it's not uncommon" I was trying to say "it's not unheard of".

I may be way off base- but I don't think so.

[mcdreamy]

Originally Posted by wretchedotis

I can't pinpoint a source for you off the top of my head - like I said it is simply my understanding.

McDreamy seems to have some personal knowledge of it.
When I said "it's not uncommon" I was trying to say "it's not unheard of".

I may be way off base- but I don't think so.

I divorced when my dd was 1, her father is an EOW dad. He pays child support based on his income from the time of separation. I felt at that time that $400 a month CS for one child, regardless of any increase in his income, was fair, so I have never asked and had told him I will never ask for his financials again. Our combined income at thetime was roughly $90.

I met , when dd was 2, my stbx. We bought a house together when she was 4, married, and from that point forward, he has acted as a parent to our dd. He attended parent/teacher interviews, coached her soccer team, just overall became her 3rd parent. In fact, now that she is 16, she is more likely to go to him if she is having a problem, then her dad or I. They have a fantastic relationship, and when we physically separate, she will want to spend time with him, as he will her. Our combined income is roughly $260.

Because of our income, we made decisions together when shen was 6ish to put her into a very time consuming and expensive sport. He attends her shows, takes her to the barn when I can't, is involved with me jointly when purchasing/leasing a new horse for different seasons, and our house pays for all associated costs. We had agreed at the outset that we would never go to her dad for these costs, it was out of his league and purely a benefit that our dd could reap because she was in our household.

I have been assured by my lawyer that collecting CS from my stbx, in addition to the existing CS from my first ex, is a non-issue. We changed her lifestyle together. I don't think our case is unusual, is it?

[NBDad]

The term you are looking for is "in loco parentis". ie. if the step parent basically acted and was seen by the child, as a parent rather than just 'the person married to my mother/father".

If the step parent attended parent teacher conferences, sports events, disciplined the child, help care for the child when sick, was given father's/mother's day cards/gifts from the child, etc, etc etc.

The kicker with requesting support from a step parent is that you must PROVE entitlement, it's not automatic as it is with Bio Children. It must be proved that the step was considered an actual "parent" in the eyes of the child.