Income tax and common law

[Doris]

I thank you for your response! He has had two failed marriges and lost both houses. He came to me with nothing but a coffee maker and a towel. He is a Master Electrician and makes enough money but that he is so insistant on my house that I've sweated for in 17 years makes me very afraid. There was a fight with him using my daughter's room (she went to college but still comes back) for his office, he called her nasty words and said it's his & my house not my daughters, one red flag. I love the trees around my home and have fought to keep them he says cutting the grass is a pain he wants to cut down numerous trees and had a fit because I stated my opinion, another red flag. I came into this relationship telling him I have raised my children and don't care to do it again, his daughter comes for a visit(she's 24 and a special needs) he told me to take the day off work and look after her he doesn't have time, another red flag.
So far I have been paying the majority of things and have given up my spousal support which helped me alot more than when "he" is paying rent, but he stills sees it that he is supporting me.
FL...everytime we talk about these issues I feel like I'm going through a divorce again, mind you we do have many good times together and like the same things but what I have said on this issue is leaving me shaking my head
how or what do I do now?

[FL_Needs_To_Change]

Doris, as long as you stay true to you, I believe things will work out.
I have a new guy too, (ten+ years actually) there are red flags for me too, but probably more to do with where I have been in life than where I am going. I think anyone in similar situations is a little more sensitive to these kinds of things. Not that I'm advocating that you ignore them. Just be you, and love you, and you will make the right decisions, that's what it is all about, taking back who you are and remembering you matter and deserve the best.

[Doris]

Even if I stay true to me the unknowing is very hard to live with not knowing if he really means what is said or just saying what I want to hear. This is not an uncommon situation many women go through this and loose all what they have accomplished.