Frustrated

[Rioe]

I think the main part of her difficulty is that he did agree to divide things as though they had been common-law, they worked out an agreement, and then after she paid for it to be drawn up properly by a lawyer on his promise to pay half back to her, he said "ha ha" and reneged on everything. No matter what arrangement it was for, family contract or not, that's pretty rude and most people would want to have something done about it.

The question of whether the cost of doing something about it is worth the potential end result is the issue she's letting her emotions cloud her judgment about. Personally, I'd just take a few extra mutual things from the house in compensation, since she can't take the paint, shed and flooring she paid for, and get going.

[dadtotheend]

If he gave his word and stiffed her, then he's a goof. Now she knows a minimum value he places on his character.

Should have done a cohab beforehand. I could have saved $40K with a marriage contract. Not once have I ever cried about my own mistake here.

Live and learn.

[charlieb]

Just a quick update: His first lawyer decided not to represent him as she was very upset that he had lied to her about everything..my lawyer and I gave himuntil Feb 5th to get another lawyer. Once he went to her and sh toldhim he would most definitely have to compensate me he quickly disagreed with her and stormed out..I am now doing up court paperwork.

[standing on the sidelines]

Originally Posted by mrsb

Have you thought about perhaps taking this to small claims court? I don't think you need a lawyer and the fee to file is small. Depending on what amount you are seeking to gain of course.

Originally Posted by charlieb

Just a quick update: His first lawyer decided not to represent him as she was very upset that he had lied to her about everything..my lawyer and I gave himuntil Feb 5th to get another lawyer. Once he went to her and sh toldhim he would most definitely have to compensate me he quickly disagreed with her and stormed out..I am now doing up court paperwork.

i do wish you luck on this. even if he paid back what was used on the line of credit for repairs renos to the house would be nice.

[charlieb]

Quick update.. we are going thru Small claims court. His second lawyer just decided she would not represent him now after he had to give her all the paperwork he was served with and she now got to see what he has lied to her about ( after getting copies of my Visa statements recently for the time-frame I was in Afghanistan I see he spent another 1K on that as well). This has disproved his comments that we "were never in any sort of relationship" to her.. the 20 day time-frame for him to file a defense is almost up and still no word back from him.. he is probably scrambelling to find a new lawyer.. will let you all know how this pans out