considering leaving common law partner

[billm]

I have a different view...

You live off of him for 4 years, without working, without contributing financially, in fact the opposite, and now you want 5K as a going away gift for ending your committed relationship. And you are also looking for a government program that helps 'women'.

Nice. It seems to me that you owe him, not the other way around. What the hell is wrong with people?

[Carrie123]

i don't know what is wrong with people-these are just suggestions. I am just trying to figure out what happens when 2 common-law people split up. Law is not my best knowledge.

[billm]

Originally Posted by Carrie123

i don't know what is wrong with people-these are just suggestions. I am just trying to figure out what happens when 2 common-law people split up. Law is not my best knowledge.

Fair enough - you didn't suggest what I objected to.

[PandaMuse]

Originally Posted by billm

I have a different view...

You live off of him for 4 years, without working, without contributing financially, in fact the opposite, and now you want 5K as a going away gift for ending your committed relationship. And you are also looking for a government program that helps 'women'.

Nice. It seems to me that you owe him, not the other way around. What the hell is wrong with people?

Well said. Too bad the government doesn't seem to have the same view. Too many people are asking for money for free. When you CHOOSE to leave a relationship you are fully aware of what you are giving up. "I want to leave him/her but I do not want to leave their money" seems to be the mentality. Sickening.

Carrie,

I would suggest that you find a job and save your own money until you decide if you are leaving or staying. In the event that should you decide to leave him you may have already saved up the $5k you are looking for. Now that's being proactive!

[Spoonz]

So he didn't need you to work, so you decided it would be ok to just live off his money. What stopped you from working?
You have no children together, you don't have monetary investments locked into any joint property. So what is stopping you from becoming self sustaining now. That would be responsible.
I don't understand why people feel that because they choose not to support themselves (for no good reason), that anyone else should have to do so.

[Carrie123]

no-i think there is some misunderstandings-just wanted to know what happens when common laws split up. Everything said here was just suggestions by whoever. Perhaps it's too easy to make critisisms when a whole story is not known.

Such as i came into the relationship with my own money and sold a house and closed a business to move. So, it's seems bad when all details are not given.

[standing on the sidelines]

Originally Posted by Carrie123

no-i think there is some misunderstandings-just wanted to know what happens when common laws split up. Everything said here was just suggestions by whoever. Perhaps it's too easy to make critisisms when a whole story is not known.

Such as i came into the relationship with my own money and sold a house and closed a business to move. So, it's seems bad when all details are not given.

was there any money left over after closing the business and sellling the house? If you have that little nest egg left over then I would not even bother asking him for money. It didn't work out for whatever reason so just make a clean break. Talk to him about how you are feeling and see if he feels the same. Remember men are not mind readers, he may think that everything is okay and you are not ready to leave.

[AnarX]

Carrie,
I have a question: Does your boyfriend still love you?

[Carrie123]

i broke even. No debts.

Yes i think he still loves me.

I just needed to know if i decided to leave if i am temporarily an adult back at ma and pops house. Yikes.

[HammerDad]

Originally Posted by Carrie123

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I just needed to know if i decided to leave if i am temporarily an adult back at ma and pops house. Yikes.

You wouldn't be the first person. I did it.....twice.....