It just completely boggles my mind..as a society we are saying. "You are parents under one roof.. but not parents under separate roofs" Get a divorce, and depending on your situation, your finances and your energy levels... you be included in 0% to 100% of your children's lives. *shakes head*
In my own little case study world... I have encountered many parents with joint custody, 50-50 and almost no support! All without lawyers or very little legal assistance. Or some went default offset CS amounts. Yet in a cubicle away (including me) you have people blowing $10K's just fighting for some access, some custody and having huge support awards made against them. Which group and which children will be better off? Now, opponents will immediately chime in and say... "Hey in a contentious divorce.. there could be no way joint custody and access will work". Okay... who is the first to give up their time and their rights of involvement? Most likely not the person sticking their feet in the mud.
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