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Old 12-16-2010, 12:30 PM
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There is a big difference between a reality check and rudeness.

An insult doesn't have to be delivered in a back-handed fashion to a newbie who's world is crashing in around them.

A caring wake-up call (slap?) will convey the message better that a flippant remark that does nothing to help the situation (and usually drives the insulted to further response defensitively - a person who already feels under attack).

Remarks that involve hindsight are particularity not helpful.

IMHO