Narcissism is an extreme personality disorder, if he is not socializing much and living and working from home then he is not displaying characteristics of it (narcissists are hyper social). Generally we shouldn't try to diagnose our ex's, we aren't nearly objective enough. If his behaviour isn't something you could have investigated, either toward you or toward the children, then you should really let it go and leave it alone. We all have our issues and no one should expect you or anyone else to be perfect.
He has full custody, and the children have primary and full-time residence with him. He is not being unreasonable in sticking to the schedule and whether or not he is still hurt and angry, he being perfectly normal in not agreeing to "flexibility". How do you approach him on this? Do you call spontaneously with an idea for fun things, or do you suggest with a week's notice that you could swap one day for another? Are you respecting that he has a routine and his own plans?
Why aren't you paying any support? He is being reasonable over and above by not seeking child support from you. You are working full time. Is there some reason you think you should not pay support?
Regarding your split and not getting anything from the house, this is sad, but what were the circumstances at the time? The personal issues between you must have gone both ways. In a common law situation there is no splitting of property or assets, you do have a right to your own property, and if you bought something jointly and each paid for it, you should split that value. It's hard to comment without knowing how much you put into the cost of belongings and property.
It's ok just to come here and share if that is what you need, but there doesn't seem to be any real conflict to resolve. Can you isolate what that is?
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