I am in the same situation as your former spouse (Maybe). I have always been a great father, but when she decided she was unhappy and wanted to move back to Ontario... All the sudden I was an absentee father, abusive husband, etc..etc..
I do feel for you though, the same sympathy I feel for my former spouse. She is stuck 3000+km from her Family and close friends.. If the situation were reversed and I was stuck in Onatrio, maybe I would be doing all the crazy stuff she is.
But the reality is that she and I made the decision together to live in Alberta, and raise our kids here. When she decided to leave because I was the cause of her chronic depression and fibromyalgia, her lawyer had convinced her that getting sole custody and moving to Ontario would be easy.
Instead, it is been extremely hard on everyone involved, and the only people satiated are the lawyers who have taken well over 100K from my kids future over the last two years.
It is sad that you are stuck in Ottawa, but at some point you made the decision to live there and raise a family. The kids need consistency, and stability.
The judge told my childrens mother that she could move to Ontario any time, however the kids were staying at home in Alberta..
She calls CAS and the Police routinely, but eventually they stop listening when the allegations are baseless.. I usually get a "your former spouse was in" call every six months... But thankfully the police here do not act rashly without evidence. If he is really abusive, by all means call. If you think it will work as justification for you to move and he is not really abusive, your best to stop now, as it will not reflect positively on you in the future.
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