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Originally Posted by NBDad
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Spousal support depends on a LOT of things as it goes off your NDI (Net Disposable Income). It takes into consideration tax deductions, Child Support/Spousal Support Payments, etc etc. ...
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SS does not HAVE to be an NDI split - I hate the NDI split! - it would make me feel still married. If I bust my hump and make a lot more money now that I am separated, why should my ex share in that? If my ex does not work very hard, or makes poor financial choices etc, why should I share in that loss? We are not together, and don't even like each other!! Also, if SS is for a limited time, why should the NDI split be the same and not have your dependence fade as time goes on (ie the higher income earner shares less over time).
My agreement is not NDI split, it is based on what happened in my marriage - damage to my ex's career, which we ascertained, so I compensate her for that damage (not all of it, she has to take some of the hit too). How much we each make after we split DOES NOT CHANGE my SS obligation to her, nor does remarriage etc, and my SS payment drops every year until it fades away. My career was not damaged by the marriage, hers was, so I pay her. Simple, predictable, fair, and business like.
It seems over time this forum is accepting the SSAG as simply the way to go however I feel it is not fair in all cases, and the fact that your financial health is directly tied to your ex, and for a variable "we'll look at this in the future" amount of time is wrong - you're not together anymore, why would your future be tied together! Okay, if you have permanent career damage (had kids young, never went to school, and are now old), fine then it is impossible to untie your finances, but otherwise SS should treated like a business arrangement that is now over and should be predictable, and finite, and based on the past, not the future.
And having kids or not should not effect SS, that is what CS is for!