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Originally Posted by today
Regardless of who PG was during marriage it should not make a difference at divorce. Most agree you don't divorce the children only the other parent, if you follow this logic then whoever spent more time with child becomes unimportant or so it should. Of course it is not viewed this way...yet..
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Part of having a family (or so I had hoped) is sharing the responsibility of being a caregiver and spouse. Sometimes, it does matter, it makes a difference. If you are a stay at home mom - clearly you are the PG, and in divorce perhaps it is said you should still be, but it is not by any fault of the working husband/dad.
In my case, I am still coming to terms with my situation. Both of us work equally, outside the home. At home, when it comes to parenting I feel like I do all the work and he has all the fun! If I could remember the last time he bathed or brushed her teeth, maybe I wouldn't feel this way...or the last time he got up with her in the middle of the night. This makes me think, in a divorce, it would be in her best interest to be with me "primarily" The person she has learned to count on, to run to. If he chooses to not do this in marriage, why would he fight to do it in divorce? Maybe if he fought to do it now, we wouldn't need to separate...just maybe. This really turned in to a pity party I think. Sorry!