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Originally Posted by susiecanoe
I admire what he is doing, but I will never support a guaranteed imposing of equal shared parenting. I believe children do require equal access to both parents, but shared parenting only works if the couple can communicate and agree, otherwise, it is quagmire of more conflict the children get caught in the middle of. No laws or court orders can enforce that parents cooperate, so when you have high conflict cases where one parent uses the shared parenting arrangement to sabotage the other parent, the kids end up getting hurt far more then they would if one parent had the primary care and control. That one parent could be a mother or a father, but whoever it is they must be totally committed to ensuring the best interests of the children are maintained, that the children have access to both parents and that no sabotaging of the other parent be tolerated or condoned. Sorry, you won't get my vote for an imposed equal shared parenting until there are some safeguards in place to protect children from hostile aggressive parenting tactics often used in such parenting agreements. Been there, done that, my kids are paying a high price for it.
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But that is the whole problem and a tactic of parents that want sole custody! Make it as impossible as they can to work with the other parent, and then whine to the court that the parents can't get along
so joint custody won't work.. And I hate to say it but if the shoe fits, it's usually mothers, and it's a
tactic of gaining sole custody period!