Hi Jenny,
I have seen his pay stubs and his take-home pay is just shy of $2000.00 per month. My take-home pay is approximately $3200 per month. It varies from month to month if I work overtime, but that would be average. If I have to pay him $1000. then that means my take-home would drop to $2200, while his take home would be boosted to $3000.00.
Big deal that he would have to pay me all of $300 a month in child support for a year...I would still be earning less then him. And I am certain my daughter (who has suffered emotionally and not doing well in school because of this) will not graduate next year...she will have to pick up at least another semester before she will be able to go to college.
And you can pretty much bet there will be no overtime being worked in my future, which is a shame because at that pay I am certain I could use it.
And it should matter that he has all the money in the world to smoke, drink and gamble, but not to support himself on. Does anyone wonder why I wanted out of this sham of a marriage in the first place?
My obligations?? Wasn't it enough of an obligation that I raised our children nearly single-handedly? That I tried to better myself in order to support our children when it became obvious he wasn't going to get off his butt to provide for them? What about his obligations to his family? What about the 18 years he earned more than me?? Maybe I should ask for compensatory support for all those years?
His not earning a higher income has nothing to do with the marriage...he had every opportunity available to him as did I...it is his lack of ambition and addictions that have held him back. He is an adult who should be responsible for himself and the choices he has made. I could have very easily stayed at my former job where I earned all of $25000.00 too, and done nothing with my life. I wonder how sympathetic a judge/court would be with me in that case?
Yes, I thought of leaving back then, actually he asked me for a divorce, but at the time I was scared that I could not support myself and 2 kids on that pay. Yes, ME. The thought of getting anything from him never ever occurred to me, because I am RESPONSIBLE for myself and my children. As should all adults be, and unless the adult has done something worth being paid for, such as staying home to raise children, or the other spouse happens to Paris Hilton or Britney Spears, than I think that adult should have to fend for him or herself.
Just my two cents worth...I still plan on defending my position on not paying him spousal support no matter what.
Thanks for your information.
Customgal
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