Thank you so much for the advice! These are all good things to know, for sure.
I am wondering, though. There is no way my ex could afford to "share" in the cost of my accessing my child. Wouldn't this just make her expenses greater and thus make me responsible for paying her more? I do believe my lawyer is using the same criteria of undue hardship with the spousal support instead of the child support...even though this is not formally recognized by the court. I am currently paying full child support as per the Child SUpport Guidelines and my lawyer did not think we'd win the undue hardship claim because my income is significantly higher than the ex's. However I think my lawyer is goiing to try to show that there would be undue hardship with: the large child support payment; the high cost of living in Nunavut; the high cost of flights home to see my child. I have agreed to pay ALL of my sons medical expenses and agreed to my ex keeping the car worth about $4500...all of the household items that are not encumbered by bankruptcy which equates about $2500; and the pensioin which is only worth about $1000.
As you know, I declared bankruptcy after we spearated but my ex still hasn't for some reason that I can't figure out. Thus, I've recently signed over to her my interest in the matrimonial home which has NO equity and is falling apart and probably would never sell ( we never had the money to fix it up) and of course the ex is left with ALL the credit card debt ( which was incurred because she wouldn't work and we had to put food on the table).
Basically, I left with barely even the clothes on my back and she kept EVERYTHING including a computer she always refused to learn how to use.
In any event, I have been left with nothing but the good fortune to finally find a good paying job. Now I am faced with having to give her half of that too....and with the possiblility of NOT affording to see my son or even meet my basic needs.
Here I go again....off on a tangent! Forgive me for doing this every time. I just have so many questions and I suppose being so isolated here in the North I find myself with no one to talk to.
Thanks for listening!!
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