Thank you very much for your reply Billiechic. I actually have seen two lawyers in the past but that was when I was still working ( I stopped working in June 2006 when I went to hospital for my first treatment and could never get well enough to go back to work). Both told me that I may end up paying spousal support because my husband is out of work so much (he is on and off EI for the last 5 years) and I was the one who made more money and "tolerated" him being at home and not working. I did contact women's shelter and was thinking about leaving the house, but then I was told that I should never leave my matrimonial home because I may be deemed that I abandoned it and then my husband will be able to keep the house to himself. I spoke to the boys, they want the best for me and their dad but I feel that they really need to be in this house or at least in this location until they finish High School (2 and 1/2 more years). I am very confused as to what I should do - stay here and put up with daily put-me-downs for the next two or three years or put pressue or start separation proceedings. My husband will not commence these himself - I heard him talking to one of our friends that "separation or divorce is NOT CONVENIENT" for him now... Well, he has it all here and I do everything for him, including job search, medical appointments, help with his mother's problems overseas... the list is too long...
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