Thanks everyone for your input. The 'approval' concept is because my daughter is getting picked up at a city of ottawa daycare and they require approval by both parents if someone else is going to be added it the pick up list. Once the name is approved only one parents needs to call to say that the other is picking up the child.
If the relationship works, great. I would prefer him with a gf/wife, then alone, while taking care of my daughter. I just have no contact info, last name, etc. To me it just seems irresponsible. I would want him to ask the same of me when I propose to add my bf to the list.
I'm sad of course that he may be thinking that the gf could now do pick up and drop off all the time while he works 12 hour days or is out of the country for whatever length of time. My wish for 50/50 access was that he spend time with his child, not put her in the care of a sitter for days at a time. I guess perhaps I was uninformed about access/care. And this goes both ways. What some of you are saying is that I could actually go work in the States for any length of time(days, weeks, months), and unknowing to my ex, have my bf(with no last name, address, etc) take care of my child. We have a 'first refusal clause' in our sep agreement, but by the sounds of it here, that doesn't really hold any weight. Is that really true legally?
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