Well now this is all good stuff thanks , I took your advise and went with " beat her with kindness" I will share with you the msg I sent.
I cant believe im doing this again but what the hell, I have spoken to Rodi and I have decided to leave , so Im giving you notice and I hope your ok with it, and I mean that. I have realized how childish we have been and the kids deserve better they are great kids and I love them and I know you do so ...thats all that matters so if you getting this house makes it all better then by all means please take it , I dont want anything other then whatr i need to furnish my apt. But in return I want shared custody if you want to break it down by the hr we can do that as well, also if it makes it easier then I will move closer to you (but not that close) so the kids wont have to be moved around ie. day care and schools .
All I want is to be a good father , you know I am , and the kids know it too. So lets stop the fighting it is serving nobody any service , You know I will always care about you , heck even now I want to say love you but lol your likely just going to insult me as soon as your done reading this. I know your a good person stuck in a funk when it comes to me . I do not want to be at war with the mother of my children , I don't want to have to explain that to them...I took some time to read ...well a yrs worth of text and we sound like complete morons and would be embarrassed to have anyone read the words we say to each other. I also found you were right when it came to money issues the 2nd would have been a big mistake but more so because we will never be together . and you were wrong about me not going to be able to handle this house ...no its not easy but im doing it , with a MAN not the mother of my kids and that was never supposed to be how this was to go down.
I am sorry it didn't work out I really am, I have waited 3 yrs for some indication we had any hope at all...I think its safe to say there is not. I do however want to remain friends. I also would like you to remember I don't HAVE to be a father to maddie , I WANT TO . I LOVE HER. and if that's a looser deadbeat lazy cocksucker good for nothing debt collector who does nothing at all but smoke and drink and play video games then so be it. But remember you slept with that's same deadbeat and laughed with me and cried ...but mostly yelled at . Now that being said we have to talk about your new responsibility and I already know what you will say but you have to be fair ...I'm giving up all i have put in , so you need to talk to whoever you need to and pay the morg for 3-4 months as i see it ...works out well for you ..you give your notice where you live now and just gear up for the move.
Please let me know if any of this makes any seance to you...and remember I don't want to take Callum from you I just want the same rights as you ...as any parent would. I really really really hope and prey this is good enough as I don't know what more I can do. So please .....PLEASE don't come at me with another nasty insult filled e-mail, I know I feed your anger and you feed mine , so im trying to stop the madness ok , WE LOVE OUR KIDS there is nothing wrong with that. I would never put them in danger you know that , so please stop painting me as a monster.
Sincerely
TIM
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