Tim, the FACS situation means little or nothing unless you want to engage in a long, expensive, ugly and stressful fight over custody.
If you want full custody and she is fighting you, then it absolutely means something.
If you want shared custody, then trying to show she is a difficient or dangerous parent means exactly what? That you are agreeing for your child to spend half their days with a difficient and dangerous parent?
However meanwhile, she may end up trying to keep custody from you and you should document these type of things, even if it is just making your own notes or journal so you don't forget details or forget to mention things to your lawyer.
You don't know what appoach you are going to take, you don't know what goal you are seeking, it is impossible to say if it will make a difference right now.
What situation do you want in place for the next 15-20 years and why? This is the question you have to address. What is the best interests of the children? This is the question the courts have to address.
I will also say, in the future, do not under any circumstances lie to the police or the children's services, or cover up for her. Be open and honest.
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