dear gooddadgoingmad
My heart goes out to you. I feel your anguish and loneliness of being in a strange place with an unbelievable cost of living and surviving all of this with no positive outcome,Fatherwise,financially, socially, or emotionally; it seems you're enduring all of this for with no real payback.
There are TONS of people on this forum , so you're not alone, sadly enough.
When you go to court be sure to have a copy of your expenses and present them to judge. Be sure to include travelling costs to see your son--but the judge may say that you chose to move so far away , so It's your problem-yet you had to find work!catch 22!
Do you have a short term contract at this new job? Is it as job you'd want to remain at for any length of time--seems to be a huge sacrifice when you see your little guy just twice a year, pay your x minimal 600.00/month +808.00 childsupport(=1408.00) . you net 2900.00/month. 2900.00-1408.00=1492.00.
This is after all deductions are paid. Now come your bills, food, clothing, travel expenses and dare I say entertainment!?
If I've understood your financial amounts and deductions correctly, your basically left in the hole! Is it worth it. Besided the money and job etc. the main concern is that you don't see your son very often! I know you're doing it for him also but if it was me I'd rather work two lower paying jobs and be there for my child. I know your heart is in the proper place but it sounds like you're not getting a fair bargain. Several years ago my brother in law was hunting for engineering work. To make a long story short he and my sister ended up in Goosebay Labrador for a few years; she said it was the lonliest time of her life...and she said the prices were UNREAL! Two and three times what we'd pay is commonplace.
Anyway there's alot of useful info on this forum; the good new and the bad news is you're not alone.
Good luck, God bless and hope I offered some sort of help/comfort.
Bye 4 now
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