dadtotheend, I know (sigh).
I haven't told him of my plans to formally end the relationship because I am not in a good position to start the mediation process. I certainly will not (cannot) leave the family home without an agreement. Yes, he can disagree, but I will try to have faith that it won't become too ugly, and do what I can to keep it fair. I'm not out to "get him"; I only want to end the relationship.
I think we will be able to come to an understanding regarding custody without too much conflict. I will be seeking joint (full parental rights for both of us) custody, and it is currently my desire to keep the children in the family home full time for as long as possible, with the intention of working out a equitable schedule for caring for them.
As for property division, I'm hoping that the finer details can be worked out in the longer term. Both our names are on the title to the family home, and we maintain separate bank accounts. For the most part, the children are the beneficiaries of any family assets in the event of death of one or the other parent. I am not concerned that the furniture will start disappearing.
I will post a new thread in the Common Law forum with questions related to planning a separation, with a link to this thread.
Ta,
MsD
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