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Originally Posted by singlemama
Is it unreasonable that I feel sole custody (with me) with liberal visitation is best for my daughter in this situation? At this point, we can't agree on anything, and I find that anything I suggest is the opposite of what he will want out of spite. I grew up with divorced parents who fought, and I want to avoid doin gthat to my daughter. I currently encourage him to see her 12 hours a week (3 4-hour visits). He doens't take that much time, usually seeing her from 2 hours a week to 10 hours.
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I would stop encouraging him to see her. Leave it up to him to contact you to see your child. Just dont deny him access unless otherwise you have been informed by a lawyer (regarding his drinking etc)
I know you want only the best for your child but forcing him to spend time with the child is getting you nowhere.
I did the same thing when I first left and then stopped being a door mat. He then went to every 2-3 weeks for a few hours here and there after that.
ps- going for sole custody myself. wish me luck!
Do you have a lawyer? You should go speak to one regarding the drinking- is he picking her up drunk?