communication between ex-partners
Dinkyface wrote:
"Another suggestion.. in hindsight.. it might not have been the best idea to bring up the issue right then and there, since you know that there are continuing anger issues. Can you discuss it without your daughter present? Or use email?"
Thank you, Dinkyface , I think you make a very good point. I would have done better not to have brought up the issue of third party with the children present. Unfortunately, the lines of communication are very poor.
Email has been used in the past and has unfortunately resulted in lots of abusive emails from him, to the point that I simply refused to read them anymore. I just found them very upsetting. He then started sending letters and notes with the children. Again given the abusive nature, I stopped reading them and now have a box full of them.
We need to be able to communicate about the children in order to co-parent. That is exactly why, I have been encouraging the idea of a parenting co-ordinator. This I understand can only happen with the consent of both parties? My lawyer said there is no gaurantee that a court would order this.
Nadia
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