[Gary_P]

Different questions so I thought I would start a new thread.

I am going back to court after 5 years to try to lower my Spousal Support I am trying this unrepresented. I stopped at the court today and picked up the entire package of forms

I have a few questions.

1) I feel guilty as hell trying to lower the payments which is why I have waited so long to even try. This will affect the income in the house my kids live in. For my own financial future I need to do this. How do you prepare, or explain this to the kids, (16,15,10 years) without looking like the ultimate jerk to them?

2) When submitting the forms and explaining the reasons for going back is it logical to "spill your guts" in the court papers for the judge to review? Obviously she/her lawyer will see all of my arguments and have a chance to counter. Is it better to outline the basics and then fill in the holes, make the big argument and add important thoughts in the courtroom?

3) Over the past 5 years I have written her lawyer 3 or 4 times. He has never replied. I have specifically said I am representing myself in the emails and letters. Should this be brought up in my case? Will it look bad for her side or negative on my side and be percieved as completely irrelevant?

More to follow.

Thanks all!