I went through some of this with my ex and know how hard it can be. We can brush it off as adults but the children cant. I am not sure that a stranger might be a good idea as your ex can complain about that too. Would there be anyother family members that may assist? You mentioned the police, how do they fit in? I agree too that they may not be best in thate reaction by the children but on the other hand they are there if something bad were to happen. Give and take on that one. I know alot are hesitant and rightly so but try to talk to CAS as they can refer you to their family services section. They(most anyway) have a program set up where you can bring the kids to their centre, you do not see your ex and he picks up the kids. Then the reverse when they are returned to you. This program was set up for exactly your type of situation and may prove to be less stressful for the children.
Something to think about and cant hurt to call to see what they have available to you. Good Luck.
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