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Originally Posted by Hanging On
Ok, I'm only adding my two cents to something but there seems to be an idea out there by some dads (or moms) paying child support that the amount is purely for the kids stuff - food, clothes,ect...But, correct me if I'm wrong, isn't child support about making sure they can live by the same standards that they have been used to/or that the other parent can give them? For example, a similar size home? Therefore, child support would go to a portion of the rent/mortgage/heating/utilities, ect?? You are not supporting your wife/husband's "standard of living" but the KIDS standard of living. If Dad lives in a 200,000$ home while Mom has to live in an apartment, even if she is getting 1000$ a month but doesn't have a great job and can't afford anymore, there is a great discrepancy in the children's lifestyles while they are with each parent. When you get married and have children, you have a responsibility to maintain what they have become accustomed to, don't you?.
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Umm you expect to maintain the same standard of living yet you are now living apart how is that even possible? Something has to give you cannot have 2 houses that are 200,000 just to maintain the same standard of living, it doesn't work. life is unfair and sometimes things are not perfect, we try our best and that is all that anyone can do, to expect the payor to keep your standard of living the same as it was before is absoultely crazy then you shouldn't get a divorce lol! Maybe the mother in the apartment should get a job or do daycare to suppliment her income. When you get a divorce you have to expect many changes to lifestyle that is just called common sense. I think child support payments are too high and don't take into account the non-payors income which is totally unfair. If the custodial parent re-marries and her new spouse makes 60,000 a year and she makes 30,000 a year and the payor only makes 30,000 a year yet he has to pay her because she doesn't have enough money to raise her family? come on this makes no sense, all the money that is given in support is just used for fun and all the while the Payor is struggling to make ends meet? Is this fair? I think that the laws have to change, someone needs to start looking at both sides instead of just the custodial parents Support payments. If we are to try to keep standard of living the same then why is the custodial parent allowed to have a huge house and all the toys while the payor is stuggling?????? there are two sides to the support issue and usually the payor is left with the bad deal! I agree every parent need to pay support for their children but when the custodial parent is making good money and so is her new partner then the support money should be put into a trust account for the child that would be fair according to me.