Mess makes some good points.
Couple other points:
When communicating, or in any kind of documentation, try to use terminology like "our child" or "our children". Using the words "my" or "mine" convey a sense of ownership. You don't "own" the children. It's a small thing, but can help to convey you as a reasonable, mature individual whose "child centric". (ie. focused on your child, not on yourself).
There are also perhaps some other programs you might be able to look into. There is one in NB called "For the Sake of the Children", it's a 6 week? program that focuses on "co-parenting" after a divorce/separation.
Look into whether there is anything similar in your area. You may not NEED it, but the point of TAKING it and educating yourself will be yet one more little thing you can bring before a court.
Be involved with your children, make a point to talk to their teachers, if you have them on a weekday, ask the teacher to please send home extra copies of school notices,etc on that day due to the family situation. Most will be more than happy to accomodate. Make a point to know when report cards come out, or parent teacher interviews. Get a copy, make your OWN appointment, and keep it.
If your children need dentist/doctor visits and your ex isn't taking them, then try to book an appointment for one of your days (if possible). Yes, it seems like a pain and that you lose time with them, but it places you where you want to be...in the "primary caregiver" role.
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